I've been on a famous dating site for quite a while now and it's been a bit of a disappointment but I am going to keep at it just in case I have luck with someone.
Anyway I've had a number of straight guys, whose profiles make it clear they're after women, try to message me a number of times. Some of them just say 'hi' which is fine and I don't mind being friends with them but why look for just mates on a dating site?! Other messages from straight guys are so explicit its unbelievable. One of them basically said he's a top and he (ahem*) wanted to fuck me (God I feel nervous just typing this!). I think some of the are probably bi but maybe they can't change their profile easily or perhaps identify themselves as straight. Still its strange I get more messages from straight guys than openly gay ones!
Has this happened to anyone else?
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You get a few "straight" guys online who seem to only want to top or want a gay guy sucking them off. They're probably not willing to admit that they're not too straight.
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I think it's most probibly sexual experimentation, and not sexual orentation
Likewise same sex people engaging in hetrosexual activities are not necessarly hetrosexual
Although a very small percentage may discover that they are either closer to bi-sexual or of the other orentation
Don't issue about the other person, so long as you are happy with yourself
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Its been my experience that "straight" guys on gay sites are one of two things:
1. Too scared to admit to themselves that they are who they really are.....which, in that case, I have NO time for.
2. Think that because they label themselves as "straight" they will get more "action" because they think that self proclaimed gay men want only "straight" guys.
In either case, they are liars, which I dont tolerate. Not worth my time to deal with mentally fucked up people who want to live lies.
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That's been sort of the norm on a lot of dating sites or
hook up apps [like Grindr].
You'll either get these anonymous profiles from d/l [down low]
guys who either have wives or girlfriends and they'll message gay guys
for sexual favors.
I don't think they're necessarily gay or bi. It's just sex really.
To put it plainly, a mouth is a mouth, and a hole is a hole.
It's funny though, I'm sure they are probably the same guys
who would make fun of or make a comment about gay guys
when they around their friends..
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I feel terrible every time I encounter guys like that in real life
or read ads like that online.
I feel terrible mainly for their wives and girlfriends. Most of
them don't care as long as they are getting off. Protection and
precaution goes out the window..
It's real messed up.. <___<
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I use to have a friend who said he was straight but always gabbed me and tried to do stuff wirth me. After awhile it got really old and I told him to leave me alone.
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You can call a cat a fish, but you'll never make it swim!
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Good points raised there guys. I think you're all right. Especially with what justbry said about these kind of guys who probably mock gay men in front of their friends (or even worse, bully them or beat them up maybe?) but then when they're by themselves they probably try to get off with gay guys. Maybe they think its macho or manly to fuck a gay guy (pardon my French)? I dunno. But you're right. They're bad news. They live double lives as well.
I'll be civil to them if any message me and will respond politely. Unless they send me unwanted sexually explicit messages in which case I'll tell them where to get off! But I'll be cautious about meeting them that's for sure.
A lot of them probably are bi but I bet some of them are probably in denial or worse they're straight guys, often with wives or girlfriends, who probably feel the need to shag a guy from time to time for some reason.
I am sorry if there is anyone on here who is one of these guys and I don't mean any disrespect but I can't be dealing with someone who lives a double life or who pretends to be something they're not.
I wouldn't mind if they were honest and said something like 'I'll sleep with anyone - guy or girl' but I know that too often they don't do that.
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