Anal Ease Creams

[Teox]

Hi Everyone, sorry it's been a while since I've on here, just been busy but I feel I'm missing out in sex.

I'm a top and I've just read up on this cream which is for Anal sex, It is to numb the pain, desensitize the skin prior to anal penetration making it much more comfortable and satisfying.

I'm gay and I really like to experience been penetrated. I've tempted to try it but it hurts like hell but when he uses one finger it feels good, i want to experience anal sex but only if i can reduce most of the pain.

Can anyone on GS advice me? Have you used or knew anyone who used any of these kind of creams? does it work? there is also Anesthetic cream.

Please don't tell me I need to relax and get to know my partner and use lots of anal lubricants because does not work for me.

Cheers.

[Dreamer]

I would say to get yourself an anal toy training kit.


Anal desensitizing creams may mask the pain,
but wouldn't they take away the good too?


Lets say you use such a cream,
and then have crazy rough sex
(to your partners benefit)...


What about your benefit?


Great!.... he got his nutt...
but now your tight bum-hole
is broken and ravaged
due to the beating it had no business in experiencing.


Once the cream wears off,
the pain and discomfort ensues.


Your teared sphincter
has undergone irreversible damage
as you now have a spider web of fissures,
and a minefield of hemorrhoids
to keep them company.


Your anus went from being flawless and pretty
to a permanent replica of Rihanna's face on "Grammy night".


Think first, act later.


Train, as practice makes perfect.


Lube and toys.


Slow and soft.


Do it.

[Teox]

Nope, anal toy training kit is not for me, I've tried them. If I use these creams I won't mind about the side affects pain after, I'll just take some pain killing tablets and I will still use lots of lube and to go slowly first with a small willy.

I only want to use the cream for a few times so my ass can get used to it.

As a gay man I don't want to die without experiencing been penetrated.

Please help me I'm been serious.

[Dreamer]

I was being serious.

I may have exaggerated,
but my message is the same.


If you're cool with the aftermath of a torn asshole,
go for it!


Whatever floats your boat.


Advice other than the advice I've already given:


Drink plenty of alcohol,
and you won't have to make much effort in relaxing.


And foreplay.... lots of foreplay!


Also, douching with some warm water beforehand can help loosen your bum muscle.


Have fun,
and don't take taking the dick so seriously.


Warm up the lube,
or fuck in a hot shower.


Poppers maybe?


I've only tried them once,
so I can't say on how effective that method really is.....
so if you're not against inhaling chemical fumes to loosen up, do that!


If it's only a one time thing
to knock it off your gay bucket list
I can't see the harm in huffing it once.

[Lilitu]

Apparently something called Crisco is good for bumsecks.

[Shiner]

if you are in pain with just a finger its probably all mental and practice / approach.

you have 2 steps here.

1. anal sex is as much mental preparation as it is physical. You have to learn how to relax yourself. The physical preparation is very important too (similar to those training kits, but there are plenty of threads on this site to help)

2. Give it a few weeks/months of practice and if you are not working you way to taking a sure-fire dicking without major issues (even at the finger level) then you should check your health for one, then think of other things.


Regarding health, if you end up making it to step 2 keep an eye on your stools, and how it feels to pass them. If you experience any discomfort it might be a valuable to visit a doctor for a bum checkup. Despite your age, many people can suffer from pretty aggrivated internal piles without any major noticeable effects (ie no constant discomfort, no blood etc)

I have a minor case of internal piles for a while and had no clue... the only time I found out was when I found blood once and rushed to the doctors.


******DON'T USE NUMBING CREAMS*******

if you have to resort to this you might lose the sensitivity to tell him if he actually IS hurting you. While you might not be concerned with some pain in the following days, what if he tore you up a little bit and that ended up getting infected? then ended up in major bad ju ju in hospital...

[NightSwan]

Never tried numbing creams myself, but I don't think you should use something like that.
Pain is a warning sign. Anal intercourse shouldn't hurt to the point of being unbearable.
If you numb the pain, you might hurt yourself or your partner (depends who's on the receiving end).

I don't see why you're so against anal toys.
In order for anal sex to feel good, you need to train your muscles and get the area used to penetration. Start slow and work your way up to the real thing~

Bottom line -
It shouldn't hurt. Practice and use lots of regular lube...

[Homer]

I agree with Dreamer. You wouldn't want to suffer the consequences later.

[Teox]

I agree with Dreamer. You wouldn't want to suffer the consequences later.

None of you are listening to me accept for Lilitu, (Thanks)

I just need advice on the best anal creams.

I only want to use the cream for a few times so my ass can get used to it.

Don't tell me I need to relax and use lots of anal lubricants, poppers, dildos

[Joshular]

The only tip I can give U is relax. Can be real enjoyable if U know how to do it right