10-20-2013, 07:09 AM
I am with the rest as far as the perfect guy goes; I can't give a perfect guy, but I can give you a list of traits I tend to be attracted to in guys. If a guy meets enough of these, I tend to like them. There is no hard number or science to it, though. Also, some have added or subtracted through the years as well.
- Genuine Attraction to Me - I hate to sound like an egotistical jerk, but if I am being honest, men who find me handsome are handsome to me. I don't like wondering. One of my first gay crushes became one of my first gay crushes by telling me I had a handsome, masculine jawline. Instantly, his eyes became prettier, his legs looked nicer, and so on - not to say they didn't before he said that but it is one of those ways that will instantly get me interested.
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- Morally Good As Defined By Me -[/COLOR] I tend to view moral matters in a much more objective light than many peers, but it is pretty lenient in many regards. I trust my gut feelings on people, watch how they treat others, etc etc.
- Litheness - I tend to like guys who are extremely lanky or thin. I am a big guy and am quite cuddly so I like a guy I can pull on my lap. Also, I tend to really like flat chests - not sure why. Not a big thing, though, as one guy I fell for awhile back made amateur body building how-to YouTube videos.
- Femininity - I like guys who flaunt some aspect of girlishness, whether in dress or in demeanor. Even in private, in their personality, I find it attractive. I am attracted to strength and being vulnerable or taking on such a vulnerable mantle as a guy who takes on girly traits does is strong. The stuff girly guys put up with while still trucking along has always been admirable to me.
- Flamboyance - I love guys who are flashy and loud. I am quiet and reserved. I listen and speak only when I have something to add. I am a phantom: someone you may remember in high school, only barely, passing through like a breeze. According to the rules, I guess I should be attracted to someone more like me but I love flashiness. I find guys who dress in bright colors and talk a lot to be oddly endearing.
- Intelligence - Who the heck doesn't have this on their list? Honestly.
- Ditziness - Not to be confused with being a moron, but I find a little clumsiness, intellectual or physical, to be somewhat endearing. I know this seems like it wouldn't go with Intelligence, above, but, remember, I said these were traits I find attractive, not those that will be possessed by the one perfect guy.
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- Fiery/Aggressive Socially/Publically - [/COLOR]I adore guys with passion, who are willing to argue and fight when they feel strongly about something, even if I am the one they have turned their anger on.
- Similar Hobbies - Another duh bit.
- Vanity/Diva Personality - Another one I hate to admit, but if I am being honest, I have a (potentially unhealthy) draw to guys who preen themselves and who crave attention. The last guy I really had a huge crush on was like this. He did cosplay and quite prided himself on how pretty he was (but when we got to know each other I found him to be a genuinely good guy - lucky, since he could have just as easily been a narcissistic knob and really used or hurt me).
- Genuine Attraction to Me - I hate to sound like an egotistical jerk, but if I am being honest, men who find me handsome are handsome to me. I don't like wondering. One of my first gay crushes became one of my first gay crushes by telling me I had a handsome, masculine jawline. Instantly, his eyes became prettier, his legs looked nicer, and so on - not to say they didn't before he said that but it is one of those ways that will instantly get me interested.
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- Morally Good As Defined By Me -[/COLOR] I tend to view moral matters in a much more objective light than many peers, but it is pretty lenient in many regards. I trust my gut feelings on people, watch how they treat others, etc etc.
- Litheness - I tend to like guys who are extremely lanky or thin. I am a big guy and am quite cuddly so I like a guy I can pull on my lap. Also, I tend to really like flat chests - not sure why. Not a big thing, though, as one guy I fell for awhile back made amateur body building how-to YouTube videos.
- Femininity - I like guys who flaunt some aspect of girlishness, whether in dress or in demeanor. Even in private, in their personality, I find it attractive. I am attracted to strength and being vulnerable or taking on such a vulnerable mantle as a guy who takes on girly traits does is strong. The stuff girly guys put up with while still trucking along has always been admirable to me.
- Flamboyance - I love guys who are flashy and loud. I am quiet and reserved. I listen and speak only when I have something to add. I am a phantom: someone you may remember in high school, only barely, passing through like a breeze. According to the rules, I guess I should be attracted to someone more like me but I love flashiness. I find guys who dress in bright colors and talk a lot to be oddly endearing.
- Intelligence - Who the heck doesn't have this on their list? Honestly.
- Ditziness - Not to be confused with being a moron, but I find a little clumsiness, intellectual or physical, to be somewhat endearing. I know this seems like it wouldn't go with Intelligence, above, but, remember, I said these were traits I find attractive, not those that will be possessed by the one perfect guy.
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- Fiery/Aggressive Socially/Publically - [/COLOR]I adore guys with passion, who are willing to argue and fight when they feel strongly about something, even if I am the one they have turned their anger on.
- Similar Hobbies - Another duh bit.
- Vanity/Diva Personality - Another one I hate to admit, but if I am being honest, I have a (potentially unhealthy) draw to guys who preen themselves and who crave attention. The last guy I really had a huge crush on was like this. He did cosplay and quite prided himself on how pretty he was (but when we got to know each other I found him to be a genuinely good guy - lucky, since he could have just as easily been a narcissistic knob and really used or hurt me).