10-20-2013, 01:59 PM
Hi all,
I wondered if someone could help me. I am confused / hurting and I really don't know what to do.
I met a guy around a year ago, and we got on really well. We were close, passionate, and I absolutely adored him. We spent every minute together and had a great summer.
When I actually brought up the suggestion of dating originally, his response really confused me. He wasn't ready and didn't want to, but acknowledged it was more than friends.
Anyway I hoped he would change his mind, but inside it was hurting me. Months went by and we kept repeating the profess - having a really good time and him just saying he didn't want anything, we want different things etc. So a number of times I cut ties and just found myself needing to be with him, and the same for him.
He went away for a few months travelling. I thought it was chance to get over him. As soon as he come back, he got back in touch and around we went again. I just couldn't understand how we were so close and he didn't want me. Every kiss, touch etc felt so passionate, and yet I felt he just didn't want me. Consequently I built up so much resentment towards him, making me feel so used and unloved.
Anyway a year later, he come over and had a chat with me. He now feels ready to date and wants to be with me. Now we are so distant, every kiss etc just makes me feel horrible and unwanted. Given the number of rejections I just don't believe him.
The intimacy, romance etc is all naturally just gone now and he isn't one to talk about his feelings. He has just said I need to trust him and see how it goes. I feel like crap and whether now is too late, after all the negativity and rejection for a year.
I just don't know what to do. I really like him but I'm filled with resentment and anger as to how I've been treated. I don't think he will make me feel loved but I can't bare the thought of losing him. I've talked to him and he just thinks it's my problem that I have to deal with and be happy that he finally wants me.
It just makes me feel worse.
What do I do
I wondered if someone could help me. I am confused / hurting and I really don't know what to do.
I met a guy around a year ago, and we got on really well. We were close, passionate, and I absolutely adored him. We spent every minute together and had a great summer.
When I actually brought up the suggestion of dating originally, his response really confused me. He wasn't ready and didn't want to, but acknowledged it was more than friends.
Anyway I hoped he would change his mind, but inside it was hurting me. Months went by and we kept repeating the profess - having a really good time and him just saying he didn't want anything, we want different things etc. So a number of times I cut ties and just found myself needing to be with him, and the same for him.
He went away for a few months travelling. I thought it was chance to get over him. As soon as he come back, he got back in touch and around we went again. I just couldn't understand how we were so close and he didn't want me. Every kiss, touch etc felt so passionate, and yet I felt he just didn't want me. Consequently I built up so much resentment towards him, making me feel so used and unloved.
Anyway a year later, he come over and had a chat with me. He now feels ready to date and wants to be with me. Now we are so distant, every kiss etc just makes me feel horrible and unwanted. Given the number of rejections I just don't believe him.
The intimacy, romance etc is all naturally just gone now and he isn't one to talk about his feelings. He has just said I need to trust him and see how it goes. I feel like crap and whether now is too late, after all the negativity and rejection for a year.
I just don't know what to do. I really like him but I'm filled with resentment and anger as to how I've been treated. I don't think he will make me feel loved but I can't bare the thought of losing him. I've talked to him and he just thinks it's my problem that I have to deal with and be happy that he finally wants me.
It just makes me feel worse.
What do I do