Confusion

[1and1]

Will you feel the same if you fall in love?

LOL I won't know til it happens. I'm not a rigid person. I can flow and change. But j just fail to see the point in it.

[MikeW]

19yos w/ "mixed feelings" about their significant other should NOT be getting married.

Seriously.

That's just stupid. That or you don't take either marriage or your relationship seriously.

SMH.

[AJJ]

Hey, I'm also getting married and I feel very attracted to other guys I meet (new friends) and sometimes I get crushed. I thinks it's normal, but I also feel scared about being unfair to him.

btw...I'm 25 and I'm scared of marriage. I always wanted to get married, but now i feel like I'm drowning.

[East]

Hey, I'm also getting married and I feel very attracted to other guys I meet (new friends) and sometimes I get crushed. I thinks it's normal, but I also feel scared about being unfair to him.

btw...I'm 25 and I'm scared of marriage. I always wanted to get married, but now i feel like I'm drowning.

Fasten your seatbelt! I have been with my man for 30 very happy years..I love him unconditionally...but I get cold sweats thinking about marriage....heterosexuals ruined the sanctity of marriage for me...so many horrible examples that served as a TERRIBLE WARNING for me....

As for being attracted to other guys..OF COURSE you will be attracted to other men. Hopefully your relationship will allow the kind of honesty where you can openly talk about it.

The only problem is if you are in love with the idea of being in love...or the image of love...then it is a fail...

BTW...WELCOME to GS AJJ!

[supasyd]

19 is young. It is possible as I know some examples where it's worked out fine, but most of them were straight. I would say the majority of 19 year olds are barely mature enough for a boyfriend let alone a wedding. I hate to say it but 2 guys together requires more maturity than a guy and a girl because the world is more set up for you to fail, even if you live in a glitter palace in Stockholm. There are a lot of pressures. I was mature at 19, but no way ready for marriage. I'm still not at 22.

Marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment. Yes you can get divorced but it kind of defeats the whole point of marriage. If you're not certain you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy, don't bother. Divorces are expensive. Marriages are expensive and treated as something tackyand disposable when they sshouldn't be, and if you do it wrong you'll have your heart broken as well.

[Eru]

Getting married at such a young age? Instead you should spend a few more years getting to know your partner a little better. Sorry i don't mean to be rude, but "mixed feelings" mean you may have got bored of your partner already.