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Advice- Relationship interest will not talk to me on Thanksgiving
#1
He is with his family, so I understand that he's busy. That's not the issue.

It's the way he says it. When I say hi, he just says that he's at his sister's house. He doesn't say anything else.

To me, it sounds dismissive. If I were him, I'd say "I'm sorry, but I have to focus on my family right now. But I'd love to talk to you some other day!" or maybe just "Can we talk tomorrow? I'm busy".

Am I just overreacting?
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#2
Yes. You can't expect someone to drop what they're doing or change how they are just because you potentially want to date them.
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#3
xzeik Wrote:Yes. You can't expect someone to drop what they're doing or change how they are just because you potentially want to date them.

I know. I just wish that he would maybe give me a friendlier message. That's it.
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#4
Arkansota Wrote:Am I just overreacting?

Yes you are.
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#5
Perhaps you could give us more information to work with.

Is this someone you're already involved with or someone you would like to be involved with in the future?

Is he aware of your feelings?

Let us know.
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#6
I don't know the circumstances so I can't comment.
You've been very vague and there aren't enough details.

What dose his family include?

Is he out to his family?

How old is he?

Quote:To me, it sounds dismissive. If I were him, I'd say "I'm sorry, but I have to focus on my family right now. But I'd love to talk to you some other day!" or maybe just "Can we talk tomorrow? I'm busy".
If I were interested in a relationship (Me pretending to be him)
I wouldn't care where I was. If I was on the interwebs I'd still chat. This is in the closet or out of the closet.
To me it sounds like he don't want anything to do wit yah. But just wait till after the holidays to see.
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#7
Hello, my name is mark taja, and i really need your advice and help.
there's this guy who is my friend for a little while ago. we were drinking with our girlfriends at a night club one night and i guess he started feeling dizzy from the drink, i was laying my hand on his shoulders when he whispered in my ear telling me to lower my hand. i checked to see if anyone is looking and found none, so i began to touch his ass although he was wearing a jeans. he started laughing and whispered again in my ear telling me in an ironic way that do you think your girlfriend would dump you if she finds out that you're playing with my ass??.
a couple of weeks passed after that night and neither of us talked about what happened to each other. one night i invited him to sleep over and spend the night at my place. we went and grabbed a vodka bottle and spent the night drinking. we felt dizzy from the drink after almost 3 hours, then we went to sleep. we started chatting each one lying in his bed, then he wanted to show me pics of the girls he met online, so i approached to his bed. after a few minutes, i lifted up the cover a little bit and moved my hand slowly toward his leg while we were chatting. i started to caress his leg, then moved to my hand to his dick from over his pyjamas. he didn't make any move neither said anything. then i let my hand into his pants and started playing with his dick and moved slowly until i reached his asshole. i caressed his asshole and moved back to his dick without him saying anything, yet he kept looking at his phone and kept chatting with me about the girls. after like 3 minutes he told me that he will not have an erection since he dick needs pussy to erect and not a man. i kept on touching his dick, then he tuned to other side telling me to go and sleep. i moved my hand to his ass cheeks and caressed it. he started saying "i'm really lost!!" which i couldn't interpret because i couldn't decide if he was curious or if he was just drunk. he grabbed my hand and removed it from his pants.
i felt so down and went to my bed thinking of what just happened. i slept. we woke up in the morning like nothing happened, we chatted normally, ate breakfast and spent all day together.
after that we never spoke of what happened that night also, but we kept on going out with our girlfriends all together normally to have fun. meanwhile, when we go out for a drink and get a bit drunk, i often chat with him at late nights. i start by telling him to come to my place for another drink and he keeps on replying that he needs girls to be at my place so he can have sex and fuck them. one time i told him to come to place and fuck me, he replied that it's useless since he needs pussy.
to cut it short, i want your advice on this; i'm travelling with him and a friend of ours on monday till thursday or 3 nights. me and him will be sleeping in the same hotel room. i really like this guy and i want to have sex with him. what do you think i should do? how can i seduce him?
i really really need your help, i'm so confused.
awaiting your reply.
thank you.
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#8
If you think he's being unkind simply tell him so, focusing on how it hurts you (rather than that he's wrong). If he cares he'll work with you on this.
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#9
Joshular Wrote:Is he out to his family?

Joshy hit the point I was thinking about

if he's closeted, than you calling him will not cause the best reaction on his part..

Anyway, Kuma already said it:

talk to him about how he's making you feel, stressing the part you already told us:

it's not what he's saying or doing, it's HOW he's doing it..nothing wrong with that
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#10
Like others have stated, without a few more details I can say this is something I would respond with if someone messaged me and I didn't want to be bothered. Short, terse, and to the point without actually saying "Leave me alone, I'm trying to spend time with my family."

Sorry kiddo. Maybe try again tomorrow?
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