Same boy, Same problem. (Sorry it's long)

[Will101]

SORRY KNOW ITS LONG BUT I REALLY NEED HELP!!
So, i don't know if you guys remember the post i made about my crush,
Let's call him Jake.
Well , i'll explain it again a bit, and put the new things.

He's my classmate, he's hot hot, and pretty.
Lots of girls,and mean lots wants him and chase him ,
But he ignores them all. And he's different with me bla bla
But only when we're along bla bla touches my ass all the time
Bla bla, but neeever try a move on me when we are alone,
Only "joking" when there are people around, but not calling the attention, he does that. As if, he does that when we're alone, i would get mad or reject him., and when we are alone, he only touches me or hugs me saying " i looove yoou" in a joking voice.
He got a girlfriend this year, they chatted for 1 month and then became boyfriends ( the girl wasn't hard to get lol) they lasted 2 weeks!! I mean, 2 weeks.
And he will never tell me anything about that girl to me, but he will talk a looot about that girl when i am not around, i think he wanted to all the "guys" to think he's a "macho" , And when they broke up, he told everyone he was still in love with a girl he "loves" since he was in 9 grade ( we're now sophomores)
BUT everytime i ask him something about his gf he didn't want to talk, or seemed awkward, and he told me that the reason they broke up was because " He was confused and someday he'll tell me why " and then i though " heee's not sure if he's straigh" .
Now, the most pretty girl in school who was our best friend, and is still mine, told me likes him, and she's chasing him of course, and he doesn't do anything to keep her away , and he tells everyone he "might have a chance with her" BUT he told ME that " they are just friends, and someday i'll know why"
I mean, why he tells me those things? And only me?
Am i the one who thinks he is in love with me, but afraid of telling it, afraid of being gay?
Should I?? Do the first step??
He spends a lot of time with the pretty girl, but also searches me when i'm around. It's so confusing to me, and he's always telling me in a jokin' voice " i loove yoou"
*imitating my airy voice* cuz he thinks "it's funny" , and when i talk to him with that airy voice and with a cute face, HE gets all blushed!! And when i decided to ignore him to stop hurting myself, i think he realized that , he was like a magneto for me!! Huggin' me all the time from the back and touching me. It's confusing. I'm confused.
HELP!

[Vigilias]

Hi Will.

I'll wade in here whilst the others are still flapping about Tom Daley!

It sounds like you need some clarification from this guy but at the same time it also sounds like you need to calm down... and have a sit down.

From what you tell us it sounds like he's interested but simply not ready to let everyone know he likes guys. It sounds also like he rather enjoys the attention and could be a bit of a player.

Could you arrange to be alone with him, tell him how you feel and ask how he feels? When I say arrange I don't mean contrive, ask him.

Let us know how it goes.

Good luck!

[Will101]

Thank you so much Friend!!
Well, since you've been the only one who replied i'm so thankful .
And yeah you're right! I was so nervous when i did this thread, but i am not like that always
And today i made up my mind, and decided to give up on him, and left him without me , see if he realizes what he wants from me. Cuz today i tried to ignore him all night when we hang out w: out friends , and when the night almost ended i talked to him and he said " So know i exist to you?" with a nervous/angry face (as if he wanted me to chase him up and ask him why he said that). Those are the things that make me confused But i didn't give him a lot of importance. So... Hahaha Thaanaks Buddy!!

[Maverick]

From what you've said, I'd guess that he does like you, but he's in the middle of trying to figure out his true sexuality. This might take him a long time, so be patient. For some, it's no big deal, but for many, there is a lot of conflict and emotional turmoil to wade through before he'll feel comfortable admitting to himself (and others) that he's gay (and that's only "IF" he is indeed gay). So again, don't push him, the process has to at his speed and at his comfort level.

Keep us posted...

[Vigilias]

I'm trying to recall something short and snappy that someone once said about not realizing how much you want something until you can't have it... might have been Oscar Wilde, I'm sure he'd have had something to say about it.

It sounds as though he likes you to chase him and ohhhhhh, how he worries when you stop!

He needs to get his head sorted and I'm sorry to say, that until he wakes up and decides he's fine liking sausage you're not going to get very far with him.

Chase after this guy too much and you're going to get hurt and damage your self-esteem.

You might have a chance if you can be alone with him, when he doesn't have to keep his guard up. It sounds like you're light years ahead of him.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

You are both teenagers - its a period of self discovery, and learning self acceptance.

I would assume he is gay, but that may be because you put your gay slant on what is happening. It is possible he is just interested in sex and playing games to find the right girl who will put out easily enough.

It could be he is a jerk and just stringing you along to see how much you will squirm and worry and crap because it makes him happy....

A lot of other 'could be's' exist here.

You need to pull him aside and ask him point blank "What does ____________ mean?" (fill in the blank).

No one can read his mind - well I might, but I grow weary of reading minds....

The only person who knows what is going on with him is himself...

[southbiochem]

From the amount of touching, clearly it's something..perhaps a good friendship, perhaps a bit more..

he can answer that...

so, when you are alone..when he hugs you..why don't you say "I like you" and see what happens..

it it's starts to go bad, you can always claim you were joking or say "..."as a person...as in...I like the way you are"

sure, he will try to act normal with all the other guys, it's normal..

let him know he can be honest with you and that it's not necessary for everyone to know just yet, if there is something to know to begin with..

so, there, ask him..in a moment you are both comfortable

[Will101]

So guys!
I'm going to do a last update about me and him.
It's completly over. I'm undone.
I'm a stupid, and he's a player, only that.
The reason is that today i realice the truth. And i made up my mind about not giving a damn about him anymore, i mean, i'll do my best to do it.
If you really want to know the reason , i'll write for you , i'm not sure if you want to :$ haha.
THANKS for the support. You all were a big help for me . :')

[Jovial]

You are not stupid, only human... sorry things didn't work out.

[Festino]

Dont worry, remember you are unique, and someone around you loves you very much. Your story reminds me of my highschool, i had this friend who was definately handsome and he had 2 girlfriends over 1 year, but i kept on going closer and closer (bromance, fucking closet i hate it) so we laughed, grabed and huged, all good teen play BUT one day i told him i am gay trough messenger. He was a bit shocked saying things like "you are joking, cmon man get real" and i was like, "nope, i like boys, most wonderful thing in the world" he was the first person i came out to i was only 16. So one day about a week after he broke up with his girlfriend (they never hanged out much out of school, he came from a very catolic house) and 2 days after that we were in the hallway of our school, just standing there waiting for the next class, we were chating and he came next to me, grabbed my ass and kinda sliped a finger in between it and said something like "you like that?" with such an impish grin in his beautiful overbite, then he said something else wich is lost in time and would give an arm to know what it was, i am a bit hipoacustic and dont get what people says in low tones, that plus the fact that a friend was coming towards us rambling about some dumb joke, i will never know...

He pulled away his hand and told me we would talk later, that afternoon we had a project together with our friends and we sat together the whole afternoon, it was beautiful, the night came in and we both parted from that cafe, as i turned around i told him "Hey man, lets see about me giving you english lessons, you suck!" he replied "yeah, awsome man, how about next week on your house", cool

Three weeks later he died, never saw him again, some form of fulminant cancer got him, and he was lost.

The abstract of all this is:

Dont wast your love on someone who doesnt deserves it because those who love you could be there today and gone tomorrow, life is beautiful but just as a rainbow it is here now, and will be gone in the blink of an eye.