Strict Parents well...

[Sylph]

I wish I could find a runaway documentary online that I saw as a rented video over 10 years ago. One of the most surreal bits was a pimp (a black man) actually bragged of kidnapping, raping, and pimping runaways, he like actually puffed out his chest as he boasted, "I'm a pimp!" The guy came off as a monster to me.

Later on in the documentary the team noticed that this guy who boasted what a violent powerful man he was seemed to be trying to hide and got curious. And thus they caught when the pimp was confronted by two women...one his mother. Both women were loud, no-nonsense, and condemning of his lifestyle and the kind of person he was and though the pimp was taller than both of them he hung his head and somehow looked smaller, I could actually imagine him as a little boy. And when one asked if he was trying to hurt his mother the loud, profane pimp said meekly, "No, ma'am." (Or that's how I vaguely remember it, it's been so long since I've seen it.)

One black guy told me that the worst thing black boys growing up in Chicago (at least back when he was growing up in probably the late 70s/early 80s) feared from the police was not being beaten or anything like that but the police calling their mother who "could be so much worse."

Rofl sounds about right.

Mothers here, their favourite line is "Bie, I brought you into this world, and Umma take you out if..." and if you weren't gone and did whatever it was you was supposed to, then gurl save your soul for later, cause you'd need a new body.

I wasn't hit very often, I watched my friends and schoolmates get in trouble and never wanted that, but when I did get in trouble, it was no picnic.

Especially though this is the case for boys of single mothers, because they are taught to respect and honour his mama, but to also fear her as well, cause she is the beginning and end to him if he fucks up.

This is actually why I posed the inquiry, cause it doesn't always appear for instance White boys are the same way with their mothers. I could obviously be wrong, but black men have that reputation of being mama's boys and such.


Actually, one of the worst things you can say here, now that I think about it, is to actually insult someone's mother. That's pretty much grounds for a fight.

"Suck ya madda" is a very very derogatory way of doing so.

[missourigaymer]

I wouldn't know about the rest of the world, but in the rural area I grew up in, our parents were strict until you hit around age 15, then they let you do whatever you felt like, in a sense letting you punish yourself. Before age 15, you got, what we called, a switchin'. Some parents were more creative with their methods. At 15, you could make any mistake you wanted, your parents simply didn't help you, even when you got in big trouble. It is still a custom in this small place that if you impregnate someone, a thing known as a 'shotgun wedding' occurs, with or without the firearms, the grooms choice. in other words, firearms if the groom doesn't want to wed of his own volition, or none if he has already decided to wed her.