Can't Bring Up the Courage to Tell Parents..

[Episcopalian94]

i didn't "choose" to perceive anything as offensive.
it's offensive to be told that my body is disgusting when i didn't choose to have my body (at least , not that part of it).

it's also offensive to , essentially , be told that my childhood couldn't have happened because there's absolutely no way a gay man would ever rape a lesbian.

You know that my intent was not to be offending women. I'm not sexist considering the original poster is a female.

I understand that you've had a rough childhood, but let me tell you about mine.

My dad committed suicide. I hear the comment all the time "Shoot me now," and as a matter of fact, this emoji right here can be perceived as suicide. It may remind me of my father, but I don't throw a fit about it, because there's just some things better left unsaid.

Let there be peace.

[SilverFrost]

Why be so feminist? If you guys said dicks were disgusting, I wouldn't really take offense.

If your dad had sex with your mom, and then raped you, and is now gay, it sounds like he's sexually confused.

This isn't what the intent of my post was for, to "piss off people". It was to tell the first poster that there is someone in her neighborhood that cares. You just chose to perceive this as offensive.

Feminist, of course this came up also. Is it wrong to want to be treated as equal human beings?

You say rapist is a sexually confused? That makes them rape?

Seriously...

[Lilitu]

I live in The Woodlands (North Houston). If you'd like, you and I could get acquainted, and perhaps we could benefit from each other by having someone to talk to about gay things. I wouldn't mind adding another lesbian to my diverse collection of friends. Inbox me.

It's not like a gay guy is going to rape or molest a lesbian. I think vaginas are gross. Lol

Cheers,

Lesbians aren't collectables. You can't add them to your 'diverse collection'.

Just saying.

[megumidesu]

My friend showed me this YouTube video of what heterosexual sex looks like from inside the vagina (they somehow put a camera up there) and I started to gag.

just gonna point out that a video of homosexual sex from "inside" isn't going to be that nice , either.

[Axanderb]

for anyone saying that there is no "need" to come out...i would have to wholeheartedly disagree with you. Especially when someone is saying they feel ready to let it happen but can't find the words or that little bit of courage to let it happen. Don't try to comfort them back into the closet...the closet is no place to be.

Yes of course tell them when your ready but i can guarantee you that regardless of how they react YOU are going to feel a great weight lifted off your shoulders when you finally do let the truth be known. The closet only breeds ulcers, worry, fear, and anxiety and i would hate for anyone to have to live in that any longer than necessary.

IF you don't think they will react in a negative manner...let them have it and make sure you're there to answer any of their questions...and whatever you do don't apologize for yourself.

[Bluelight]

This is exactly what I was going through before I came out to my parents, I was also never good at talking to them about anything personal or touchy. I waited for the "right time" for a while, but then one night I realized that there was really never going to be a perfect time so I just my mom out of nowhere. And then life went on, as always. Just tell them, get it done with.

[southbiochem]

You just chose to perceive this as offensive.

No, it was offensive....do try to restrain yourself from such commenting in a site with a considerable female population...

what you may not perceive as offensive, others will.

then again, you have started in GS with an afwul choice of words in "join my church" and "dating Russian guys" threads ....I can't say I'm suprised you're already alienating people..

[Evan88]

Let there be peace.

How can there be peace when its you who makes posts that make people rumble and argue with each other... Sorry for being rude but its just what i feel.

Maybe try to be more sensitive, you're a newbie so see to it first if what kind of community is Gayspeak. This is a very cool and positive community just to say.

[Rainbowmum]

In our family we had this one uncle who was gay but did not come out.
He brought his partner over to celebrate Christmas with the whole family ,everyone knew it yet no one said anything ,he became a regular at our family celebrations.

He was known as Uncle Rays special friend.
I am pretty sure that Uncle Ray never came out.

Perhaps you could try bringing her over for dinner.
By the way ,as a mum I can tell you your mother probably knows.

Don't put pressure on yourself sweetie ,life is irritating enough as it is.

We are all here for you.