EJ13 Wrote:That's one of the things he said, that he doesn't feel like he is ready for a commited relationship... Ugh I dont know what to do! Should I try to talk to him again?
Sorry I haven't seen this thread in two days... My bad.
What should you do?
Hang with him, and strive to be friends first and foremost. Stop trying to force him to be a lover.
There is this saying about if you love something let it go... Try it.
I don't mean totally turn your back on him, but I mean if you really love him, care for him stop trying to force him to enter into a committed relationship.
Sadly there are no assurances in life no matter what we do. He may not be willing to commit to YOU someone else, sure... but you? No, why? Because he values what you two already have, this friendship.
Don't underestimate or downplay the power of a friendship. humans need those as much if not more so than lovers. Having someone you can relate to, tell your secrets to, hang out with without all of the sexual tension is often a lot more meaningful to a person than having a sex-partner.
Since you don't know your preferred role in bed, then his telling you he is a bottom is most likely his acknowledging that you don't about yourself, but he knows about himself and he doesn't think that if you decide that your preferred role in bed is bottom that this relationship is going to work out well.
Yes I know, you have all of those emotions and desires and wants and stuff going on. However you have the front part of your brain, that rational, reasoning part - bring it to play here. Yes its hard since love take place in the animal part and the animal part of the brain is huge, and older and knows how to survive over the fore brain.
I strongly suggest that you hook up for a coffee or whatever you two do as friends - no sex involved and let him talk about his feelings and stop second guessing what he means.
He is most likely as uncertain and full of emotions as you are. He is most likely struggling with his own brand of love, and may actually want to be in a lovers situation with you, but is terrified that it won't work out and not only will he lose a lover but he will lose his best friend as well.
And stop worrying about your dick. Honestly it ain't that small, and a lot of guys actually prefer smaller since it does less damage to the anus. Yeah I know, porn.... Actually go back in your head and count how many times a really large dick in a bottoms butt leads to the bottom maintaining a hardon.
Those grunts, whimpers and moans are not pleasure, they are pain... There is a fine line between 'Oh My God!' as an expression of pleasure and "Oh My God!' as an expression of pain.... Most of those porn videos with bottoms guys getting their guts rearranged by Mr. Horse Dick is usually suffering, thus they are working their hand real hard to get 'something' in the way of pleasure from that.
Also understand that the only place in the anus a dick, a finger a traffic cone feels nice is on the prostrate, which is around one inch up in there - If you learn how to hit that spot with your dick and keep massaging that area with what you got, I assure you every bottom will absolutely positively love what you got to offer.
Its the skill of the top, not the size of his endowments that really matter in end.
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