What is love?

[Festino]

So i met this guy online, he is the best friend of one of my friends and i was told that he was interested in me, he is bi and 16 years old.

We chatted for a week and on friday the 14th we went out to a cafe, we met in a park and then we walked for some blocks untill reaching it, we waited for a while because it was still closed, we sat under some trees and got to know each other.

The night went by and we laughed and chatted i even gave him a lecture about dialectic materialism and marxist theory (he is having a test about it soon )

So it was 9pm and we paid the bill, walked out of the place and into an alley, as we walked he asked me what kind of guys i liked so i told him that it depends on the person but told him shorter guys are a turn on for me (he is shorter) he gave me all throught our date a lot of innuendos and in some moments of silence we stared into each other eyes in those akward pre-kiss moments.

So we stopped there in that alley and kept on talking about ex partners etc. After a while again came that sexual tension so i went a little closer, he just closed his eyes and moved forward with his lips slightly parted, we kissed.

After some good 5 minutes of kissing we sat down on the sidewalk and he told me he is obviously atracted to me and i told him i find him atractive too but he needed some time before being in a relationship because he had a girlfriend, wich he didnt love and needed to break up with. I told him that was ok by me and that i liked honesty, told him we would go as fast or slow as he wanted and told him i am a patient guy.

After some more kissing and huging i walked him to the bus stop in the main square of town (right in front of the catolic cathedral) and there we waited in line for his bus. When it arrived he turned to me and we kissed goodbye (shock in the eyes of many people lol)

So its been a week and 2 days, he broke up with his ex girlfriend and got a bit upset about it (he had been dating her for 2 years) we had other 2 dates last one he invited me to a party in his house where many of his school friends attended.

When he invited me he told me we should be discrete because his sister and mother didnt knew he has a boy (so cute) of course being a closet guy pretending is no problem for me. So i arrived and met all his friends (i felt old with those highschool boys and girls around lol) and made a good impression. The party started, there was pizza, whisky and soda, i just drank soda because i dont drink alcohol and my teeth ache because of new braces.

We behaved cool, i had lots of fun and finally got to let the steam of a week of hospital work out. He didnt drink much alcohol either. So after a while we got more comfortable and he gave me a kiss in the cheek, so that got things interesting and i started flirting a bit with him and he came along.

Then i set up my cellphone on the sound system and put the song "canned heat" by jamiroquai, everyone started dancing and i danced next to him (not such a great dancer but i can hold my ground) so in the middle of the dance we made eye contact and our body lenguage was clear. I let him take the desicion, he came closer to me and he wraped his arms around me, we kissed in a gone with the wind pose and everyone stoped the dance.

There was some conmotion and awe but we both chatted with those inquiring about WTF was going on, he said something along the lines of "its not the first time and certainly wont be the last" and i used other arguments with his friends like "now you know gay people".

So after five minutes of joking and chatting everyone got cool and acceptive, we kissed some more and danced closer holding each other.

The party was over and i went home. ( I made friends with his friends and i had an extra ego boost, they couldnt believe i am 21, they all tought i am younger, so thats nice)

We chat daily and skype almost every night.

I have started liking him a lot, and feeling affection growing between us, we even tell each other "te quiero" wich could translate to "i love you" but in a lesser form ("te amo" is the more serious form)

So

Ever happened to you guys, ever gave someone who liked you the chance to conquer you even tought you didnt have feelings for them, and then they started to grow on you?

I like him, even could say i like him a lot but it maybe just passion. We both just went through crappy relationships (he had a girl, and i had a crush) On our first date i told him that i like honesty and the day i dont have romatinc feelings for him i would tell him, and told him i expect the same from him. He is mature for his age and very brave, he said he believes in the same honesty.

The feelings of discomfort inside me come from the fact that all crushes and playmates i have had were my good friends first, but this guy is the first love only relationship i have had, i mean we were not "friends" beforehand. Is that the norm in the dating world??

Thanks for reading and commenting guys :3

[Ekwarph]

Baby don't huurt meee no mooore

Let the time do everything for you, that's the best you can do atm, I think.
After that, It's a rational solution, and "love" or "passion" is not.

[partis]

Thats awesome! This is the way everybody should come out to there friends :p

im glad everything went ok and no one got aggressive. Its nice to show affection in public just like everyone else and not having to stand 2 feet away from the person you love, though thats still not possible in some places however the media portray it, it takes balls to do it and it takes a weight off your shoulders, thats my opinion anyway.

[festino: what is love?]… a golden retriever puppy eating your breakfast cereal then wagging its tail and smiling at you.

pleased for you

[Arkansota]

So i met this guy online, he is the best friend of one of my friends and i was told that he was interested in me, he is bi and 16 years old.

We chatted for a week and on friday the 14th we went out to a cafe, we met in a park and then we walked for some blocks untill reaching it, we waited for a while because it was still closed, we sat under some trees and got to know each other.

The night went by and we laughed and chatted i even gave him a lecture about dialectic materialism and marxist theory (he is having a test about it soon )

So it was 9pm and we paid the bill, walked out of the place and into an alley, as we walked he asked me what kind of guys i liked so i told him that it depends on the person but told him shorter guys are a turn on for me (he is shorter) he gave me all throught our date a lot of innuendos and in some moments of silence we stared into each other eyes in those akward pre-kiss moments.

So we stopped there in that alley and kept on talking about ex partners etc. After a while again came that sexual tension so i went a little closer, he just closed his eyes and moved forward with his lips slightly parted, we kissed.

After some good 5 minutes of kissing we sat down on the sidewalk and he told me he is obviously atracted to me and i told him i find him atractive too but he needed some time before being in a relationship because he had a girlfriend, wich he didnt love and needed to break up with. I told him that was ok by me and that i liked honesty, told him we would go as fast or slow as he wanted and told him i am a patient guy.

After some more kissing and huging i walked him to the bus stop in the main square of town (right in front of the catolic cathedral) and there we waited in line for his bus. When it arrived he turned to me and we kissed goodbye (shock in the eyes of many people lol)

So its been a week and 2 days, he broke up with his ex girlfriend and got a bit upset about it (he had been dating her for 2 years) we had other 2 dates last one he invited me to a party in his house where many of his school friends attended.

When he invited me he told me we should be discrete because his sister and mother didnt knew he has a boy (so cute) of course being a closet guy pretending is no problem for me. So i arrived and met all his friends (i felt old with those highschool boys and girls around lol) and made a good impression. The party started, there was pizza, whisky and soda, i just drank soda because i dont drink alcohol and my teeth ache because of new braces.

We behaved cool, i had lots of fun and finally got to let the steam of a week of hospital work out. He didnt drink much alcohol either. So after a while we got more comfortable and he gave me a kiss in the cheek, so that got things interesting and i started flirting a bit with him and he came along.

Then i set up my cellphone on the sound system and put the song "canned heat" by jamiroquai, everyone started dancing and i danced next to him (not such a great dancer but i can hold my ground) so in the middle of the dance we made eye contact and our body lenguage was clear. I let him take the desicion, he came closer to me and he wraped his arms around me, we kissed in a gone with the wind pose and everyone stoped the dance.

There was some conmotion and awe but we both chatted with those inquiring about WTF was going on, he said something along the lines of "its not the first time and certainly wont be the last" and i used other arguments with his friends like "now you know gay people".

So after five minutes of joking and chatting everyone got cool and acceptive, we kissed some more and danced closer holding each other.

The party was over and i went home. ( I made friends with his friends and i had an extra ego boost, they couldnt believe i am 21, they all tought i am younger, so thats nice)

We chat daily and skype almost every night.

I have started liking him a lot, and feeling affection growing between us, we even tell each other "te quiero" wich could translate to "i love you" but in a lesser form ("te amo" is the more serious form)

So

Ever happened to you guys, ever gave someone who liked you the chance to conquer you even tought you didnt have feelings for them, and then they started to grow on you?

I like him, even could say i like him a lot but it maybe just passion. We both just went through crappy relationships (he had a girl, and i had a crush) On our first date i told him that i like honesty and the day i dont have romatinc feelings for him i would tell him, and told him i expect the same from him. He is mature for his age and very brave, he said he believes in the same honesty.

The feelings of discomfort inside me come from the fact that all crushes and playmates i have had were my good friends first, but this guy is the first love only relationship i have had, i mean we were not "friends" beforehand. Is that the norm in the dating world??

Thanks for reading and commenting guys :3

You need to watch out because I have done research and in the state that you live in, the age of consent seems to be 18 with exceptions. I'm glad you're happy, but please don't get in trouble.

Keep in mind that you're not in the wrong- This would be considered a "Romeo and Juliet" situation, at least in the USA.

Just make sure you're not breaking the law.

[Festino]

You need to watch out because I have done research and in the state that you live in, the age of consent seems to be 18 with exceptions. I'm glad you're happy, but please don't get in trouble.

Keep in mind that you're not in the wrong- This would be considered a "Romeo and Juliet" situation, at least in the USA.

Just make sure you're not breaking the law.

Hehehehe actually i read the penal code for my state and the age of consent is 12 years old, sure 18 is "the age of sexual liberty" but acording to the law only if he acussed me of getting laid through cheating and deceive would i be in trouble.

Also for that he would have to go to the juridical doctor to get a proper physical examination of his rear entrance in search of penetration, he would also need visual and physical evidence of my abuse.

I know the law.

And we discussed a bit about it, playfully, we both agreed to keep it inocent until he is 18 1 year from now.

Wich is great, i will save money and since he will be reaching 18, finishing higschool and i will be finishing my career i was thinking in taking him on vacations to the beach, well at least that is my fantasy hehe

[Festino]

a golden retriever puppy eating your breakfast cereal then wagging its tail and smiling at you.

http://gayspeak.com/picture.php?albumid=...ureid=5428

You are right, love is very near to that :3

[southbiochem]

Ok, you know full well I'm in no position to advice you on relationships.

1.- Exercize caution. Despacio por las piedras.

Other than that, go for it,time will tell you if this is right or not, you are barely knowing to get know him.

Can't say much more than what I told you already (:biggrin, except that the next time you pass in front of that Catholic Church YOU KISS HIM!

Do it for me

[MisterTinkles]

Love is a dirty four letter word.

[EJ13]

I will only tell you to watch out with young guys. I thought my ex (18) was mature, el era super maduro al menos eso me demostro y al final no lo era. Solo ten cuidado porque ellos te pueden demostrar que les gustas y que estan enamorados de ti pero al fin y al cabo, no. Just make sure what you really want and what he wants, this is very important! He could show interest to be in a relationship and even tell you about it, you could fall for it and play along and end up suffering...

Not that I want jinx you or anything, just be careful. Good luck!