Should I be pissed about this?

[MisterTinkles]

Of course I don't see it that way! I'm the good guy... obviously. I mean, I'm me, and he's him. So....


I seek justice.

Believe me, you file a complaint, verbally and in writing, with the words "law suit" in it.......that will be justice enough. Schools cannot handle law suits, much less the threat of one.

File a verbal complaint. Then write that same complaint down in letter form, and mail it to the Dean. If you really want to put the fear of Wade into them, forget the Dean, send the letter to the head school administration office.

[Wade]

I actually kind of agree with loser guy (facetious as I was pretending to be). I didn't really "forget" my stuff. I intended to go back and return to practicing, but I took my sweet time and ended up hogging a room very rudely for no reason whatsoever other than being a jerk.

So I certainly wouldn't mind in the slightest if the guy chewed me out when I got back. I deserved it.

That said, I think the guy could've just put my stuff in the corner of the room he was in, or waited for me to get back and then told me off. But yeah, putting my stuff in the hall was not cool.

[princealbertofb]

Wade, my dear, what you can learn from this is that you should never leave your personal stuff unattended in a public place, even if it's locked, unless you are sure to have the only key. I know how it is that you got carried away on the Internet, and how answering e-mails sometimes gets the better of us, but leaving the room for a full half hour when the rooms are needed by other users, doesn't seem very fair to me, and I'd be pissed too to know that someone had booked a room in which he wasn't practising making my practice impossible at the same time.
The civil way to do things would have been for the new player to leave your stuff in the room kept aside for your return, and for him to apologise for taking your place when you had clearly not finished using the room. Now is there a reservation policy in your school? Something like a timetable in which you can make the reservation for the room for any given amount of time? If not, maybe you could ask the administration to implement such a timetable for such rooms, so that once it's been booked, there's no reason why you shouldn't have use of it for the whole time you booked it. Next time, if there is a next time, you could also leave a note on your stuff or the piano and say you've had an emergency and you'll be back soon.

[Sylph]

If I had to pass sentence on this you would both be punished:

You for being very selfish and inconsiderate and he for taking the law into his own hands.
Two wrongs do not make a right!

Therefore if I were you I would learn from it and say nothing. If you complain it would only be fair that both of you would be admonished.

I hope you see it this way too?

No hunni, there's a difference between, a cunt and someone who forgot their shit.

That's like me pushing you down on the ground and saying;

"Well, we're both to blame, since I pushed you and you let me do it"

Saying nothing in a situation like this only leads to more bullshit, and I don't think Wade should have to deal with it.

Hopefully you see it this way too?

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Let us turn this around.

Let us assume that you had more than just this passing fancy of music, but were seriously pursuing it to where every moment being on the instrument was necessary to you...

How would you feel to see a room being held for for someone with no one using the instrument?

[princealbertofb]

It does look as if the note came from someone in the administration. Why does that lady already dislike you?

[MisterTinkles]

The point is, whoever touched Wade's stuff had no clue as to WHY it was left there. Wade could have been called for an emergency, or had to go to the restroom....etc.....

Wade forgot....lost track of time. We all do it. That is NO reason for someone to be putting his personal stuff in a place where it can be stolen. Unacceptable!

[Wade]

Let us turn this around.

Let us assume that you had more than just this passing fancy of music, but were seriously pursuing it to where every moment being on the instrument was necessary to you...

How would you feel to see a room being held for for someone with no one using the instrument?

In this situation, I'm a dick. I admit it. And I know you don't know me, and I probably shouldn't want to correct this as much as I do... but at the risk of sounding like an even bigger dick and ego-maniac, I really want to correct this:

"Let us assume that you had more than just this passing fancy of music, but were seriously pursuing it to where every moment being on the instrument was necessary to you..."

It's not a passing fancy. I spend all my time in the practice rooms (except those 30 minutes, I know, I know). Each weekend as well (I commute every day). I'm studying composition very seriously and just won a concerto competition for the college for which I worked very hard for. It's my life. I understand how important it is to need the practice room.

Again. I was a total inconsiderate asshole in this situation. But... and perhaps I've given the opposite impression, what I do is not a passing fancy.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Hmm. So how does that make you feel?

Lets continue this 'reversing it'.

You find some one left there stuff there in the room, and are not hard at work - wouldn't you just make the angry assumption that they are not seriously about the whole music thing?

What would go through your head if this was reversed?

I'm not justifying either side of this particular incident. I'm just trying to give you some potential insight as to the mindset of the other so you will see that being what it is it was bound to end this way.

You can still choose to sit there and stew on it, and be pissed that your shit was put out where it can be stolen... but I have to wonder if the roles were reversed that your reaction would be similar - perhaps you may not have acted on it, but throwing 'dudes shit' out the door most likely would have been one of many thoughts in your head - no?

[loserguy]

Thank you Wade,

I was only trying to advise as I saw things based on your post.
He was wrong to take the law into his own hands. He should have dealt with it differently but if your stuff wasn't there in the first place he wouldn't have had the opportunity to deal with it;-)