Trouble with Men/Sex

[RicardoRacoon]

There are a lot of people who have no issue having sex with someone they hardly know. That's okay but that's not me. I can be aroused by persistent, charming men but the idea of actually having sex with them disturbs me. The only time I feel comfortable having sex is if I'm in a committed relationship with them.

I don't produce sperm nor orgasm though I do value and want sex if it's with someone I trust and am infatuated with. I think men are turned off when they learn I don't orgasm and it makes it hard for me to open up to them. I'm literally the only person I've ever heard of that doesn't orgasm and as silly as it sounds, I think it's holding me back.

What I want to know is if you guys would be comfortable with spending the rest of your life with a man if you knew he couldn't orgasm. Honestly.

[jogu656]

I am like you in that I cant have sex with strangers, I never have, somehow I just cant be sexual with someone I do not know, sex to me is more sacred (haha old fashion here) but in regards to your question if by orgasm u mean not cum, ummm id have no problem, relationships aren't all about sex and if I get mine than I'm cool and happy, I would feel selfish but if its just something the guy cant do and chooses to be with me I can respect it and make it work.

[TimeSage]

...That sounds more like a medical problem. Or you just haven't done right.

[gayzonechannel]

I have the same problem with you

[Cuddly]

I don't think it would be a problem for me. If you ( my partner ) are happy, then I'm happy. Orgasm or not. If you don't mind me asking, are you diagnosed with something? It's a little fascinating to me. Iam sorry it troubles you.

[RicardoRacoon]

I've never had a diagnosis, though I'm certain the reason I don't orgasm is because my testicles were in my body rather than in my scrotum until I was about 15. And I appreciate the insight. It does help with confidence.

[loserguy]

Each to their own but I don't do the no strings thing either

[driftwood]

I've never had a diagnosis, though I'm certain the reason I don't orgasm is because my testicles were in my body rather than in my scrotum until I was about 15. And I appreciate the insight. It does help with confidence.

Firstly, I don't think I would have a problem with that. I have been with women who didn't or rarely orgasmed, and it wasn't a problem.

But on another note, it would be a good idea to see a doctor about your condition. It sounds like Undescended Testicle, which could put you at greater risk for various other problems including inguinal hernia, testicular torsion or testicular cancer. Not trying to scare you, but monitoring would probably be wise. Understanding more about your condition also might help with confidence.

[jimcrackcorn]

Sex doesn't make or break a relationship in my opinion. You can have a successful relationship without having sex,,, although it should be noted that the younger folks might have a harder time keeping the relationship together when the sex is missing. Something to do with the high sex drive of youth.

If you can get an erection, then you can perform in the sex-capades. Orgasm only last for a couple seconds - so it shouldn't deter the remaining 23 hours and 55 seconds that you and your partner share together each day.

[megumidesu]

I think there are more women who have never had , or rarely have , orgasms than women who have them regularly. But that doesn't mean that women don't enjoy sex. It just means that sex becomes about the whole experience , rather than just the ending.
Don't worry too much about not having orgasms. Sex can still be amazing without needing to aim for a few seconds of pleasure at the end. In fact , being totally in the moment and not giving a crap whether you'll have an orgasm or not makes sex a lot better for many people...