Hello everyone,
I am a 15 year old gay male (virgin), and recently I have had an overwhelming urge to offer oral sex to (adult) strangers I find attractive out and about. I almost approached a guy in the public toilets in the library, but I got too nervous, and left it alone...
To this point, I am still unsure of whether or not I am here for advice on how to approach someone for something like this, or for someone to talk me out of it as I am aware there are health risks associated with it.
I just really want to know what it feels like, but at the same time, I don't....
Any advice or personal stories would be most welcomed, please 
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Do you realize what does it mean having sex, even if it's just oral, with strangers? It means STD for sure.
Also, how can you know whether the guys you choose to approach, are gay? If they happen to be aggressive straights, you might lose some of your teeth too.
And you will only really enjoy sex if you do it with someone you care about.
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As exciting as it sounds to hand out blowjobs to attractive strangers, it is still a bad idea. To be honest, you're too young to be doing much of anything. In my opinion.
I urge you to keep yourself under control; you cannot simply approach random people and ask them if you can suck their dick. Even if you could or find a place to do such a thing, there are STDs and gaybashers to worry about. If you want sex, you could hook up with people actually interested, instead of asking people you find attractive, on the street.
Play safe!
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It's perfectly normal to wonder and desire dude but it IS very risky. If you want to learn about all the possibilities first hand you may set yourself up for some major disappointment much more so than divine encounters. Additionally, right now you have the chance to make choices for yourself that will be setting the stage for the many great years just ahead of you as an adult. You might consider some hot distractions to "acting out" in a more risky way. Like maybe do you know there are 50+ varieties of free gay porn on the net? Of course you do. Don't make trouble for you or others. Make love to that libido you have stirring your desires! Lastly, did you know that what makes you orgasm and the methods by which it happens grows and changes with experience. How you think it is now will be different as you go even if you can't imagine such a change now. I love your courage asking about it. It's hot to think about that stuff from one point of view, but SO MANY have learned the result is NOT what you imagine. Now you go use that bright, hot imagination to sucky sucky my fat daddy and stay away from anything that puts you at unnecessary risk! 
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I'd say don't go down this route! If you really want to do it... then do it with someone you know, and you know is gay or wants to experiment just not some random stranger.. How do you know he hasn't got something wrong with him? Plus in a toilet that means he's just pee'd and I'm sure you don't want to taste that. Its fine to experiment, yes maybe you are a bit young.. but the fact you are asking for opinions to start with shows you're not stupid.
Just don't put yourself in danger, okay?
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Had the same urges in the past and acted on it once, it wasn't worth it. Afterwards the STD worries and the feeling of what the hell did I just do materialized. If he allowed me to blow him what else has he done with complete strangers.
If you must act on it at least make sure you do it safe.
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yeah I agree don't, specially if you don't know his history or if its actually clean, and by clean I mean he don't smell dirty, or have pee, or just came from bare backing some other stranger, think it through, wait for the one that you trust, know, and feel comfortable with, trust me after a moment of heat comes regret, its not a great thing to feel, so focus your energy on maybe getting to know someone who can satisfy you in a good healthy way.
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Hey there... Your curiosity and impulses are normal. You're at a time in your life when hormones are surging, and heavily influencing your urges. Unfortunately, it's also a time when your prefrontal cortex hasn't yet fully developed, leaving you more prone to making poor, impulsive decisions. The irony of evolution...
I would suggest you try to find another, more safe and appropriate outlet for your urges. Guys your own age who are also more likely to be open to exploring. Regardless of what you do, protect yourself. Always use condoms, no exceptions on this. Later on, when you're older and involved in a committed, monogamous relationship, you can explore unprotected sex in that context. But get it into your head, make it a habit, a condition of sex, that you always strap up. In this day and age, there's no excuse for irresponsible, unprotected sex among the youth.
And don't go meeting strangers without taking measures. Tell a trusted friend or family member where you are going, who you are meeting, the guy's phone number and info, and make a plan to check in at a prearranged time. Don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable, or give you an uneasy feeling. Trust your instincts! If something feels off, LEAVE.
Good luck, and be good to yourself!
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