Will any gay guy ever like me if I have an extra small penis and am overweight?

[Bowyn Aerrow]

I watch gay porn all the time

And there is the problem...

Understand that when a porn star is born (discovered, whatever) part of the 'casting' is based on if they have abnormal endowments or not.

Those who have more than average tend to hit the screen far more often than those who are 'average'.

And this applies to other things as well - such as how much muscle a guy has....

I'm a product of an earlier time, thus I more clearly see the vicious circle of guys trying to live up to porn-star qualities and porn-movies feeding a heap of lies to a population who is decidedly not made up of porn stars.

One of the horrors for me is the act of body shaving.... Waxing and crap like that. Until the mid 1980's and the advent of the VHS, men with body hair was the norm. Then porn producers discovered that shaving the body and 'down yonder' lead to better closeups - now we have a society fixated on removing body hair because they believe that porn actually depicts what real people and sex should be like.

Look at pre-VHS porn and you see a lot of average guys - body hair exists, average sized dicks (small ones not porn-star huge). Average muscles.... today we have 'super-star' qualities being pushed of as 'average'.

With over 30% of the population being on the 'padded' (fat) side, the real average when it comes to the body is overweight. As for dick sized, average is 5.6 inches: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/07/14...91649.html

Average size for a porn star is 8+ inches with a lot of porn surrounding inhuman sized penises where the bottom guy is in agony instead of in pleasure when getting fucked.

Bulging muscles and next to 0% body fat is atypical of the human species, the reality is that humans have blubber - which is atypical of the hominids (apes and monkeys) but is not atypical of humans. Blubber (sub skin fat) serves the same purpose as a fur coat on other species. It is an evolutionary advantage, not a detriment, for humans to have their bodies softened by a decent layer of fat.

No matter what you look like, I assure you age will strip away the beauty and perfection of youth and what is left is personality.

A guy who wants to be in a real realtionship is going to have to set aside their preconceived notions of 'beauty' if its based on porn and advertisements which do not reflect normalcy.

As for your being in a closet - well that is something you are just going to have to work on - or not - that part is up to you.

Your fear of being found out as a homosexual is solely yours and you either learn to overcome it or you live in the closet. I can't pull you out of it, I can't make it easier for you to come out. All gays have a moment or two in the closet and have to find their own way out... or not.

I do strongly suggest you stop judging yourself based on porn.

As others have said there are chub chasers and those who are totally into bears (big (padded to fat) hairy men).

Do you want muscles? Fine they go to gym and work out. If you personally do not want a body like that then accept who and what you are. Trust me, trying to be something you are not never works out, it always ends badly.

[davearoo]

A couple of things worth adding here:

1. You can figure out the length of almost any guy's penis by his hand. Measure from the heel of the hand (palm up) to the top of the third finger: that's the length of his erect dick. If it's significantly longer or shorter, the guy is anatomically unusual. Which many porn stars are.

2. Are you doing the whole diet-and-exercise thing? If not, get some advice from your doctor about how to start.

[CarGuy65]

Sorry to be so explicit but once again I have always said more than a mouthful is a waste! And for the ladies more than a handful is a waste. I prefer a guy who is on the not so large size. There is so much more you can do with it.

[swalter]

1. You can figure out the length of almost any guy's penis by his hand. Measure from the heel of the hand (palm up) to the top of the third finger: that's the length of his erect dick.

There's no truth to this whatsoever. Numerous correlations between dick size and other anatomical measurements have been suggested and proposed over the years, and none of them have been found to be accurate or substantiated by the science. It's nothing more than a myth.

[Mark]

This would make a lot of guys HUGE if the hand thing was true.

[davearoo]

This would make a lot of guys HUGE if the hand thing was true.

It's about the same with me, and I never thought of my cock as all that exceptional. (shrug)

[Tulloni]

I wouldn't worry about it too much. I know someone who is seriously obese, more than anyone else could ever be, and he has sex fairly often so if he can do it I am sure you probably can.

But anyway, sex is seriously overrated. I've had so many disappointing experiences and its rare for me too (I am slim, in fact I am probably too skinny!), so don't worry, you're not alone! I am on the verge of giving up on the idea of sex! But then I have an anti-social personality and a general dislike of people so I guess that's to be expected.

[ManicReptile21]

First off, I could not get through your post without thinking i was reading like a bad version of 50 shades of gay In anycase, you should stop lusting with your penis and lust with your heart. In the end sex will only get you so far. You'll need to have character and pizzaz to make the rest of your sex induced lives worth something.

[Mark]

It's about the same with me, and I never thought of my cock as all that exceptional. (shrug)

I think you should upload a hand picture

[corcorz9]

I am in the closet. I watch gay porn all the time but feel shame afterwards thinking that I will never even be able to even touch or kiss a guy. I am afraid that if I ever show someone my penis they will laugh at how small it is. If I ever even somehow get so lucky as to meet a guy somehow and they're gay and they like me because cupid shot some arrow in their butt that makes them out of it out of reality and I ever get the chance to have sex can my penis even fit right into a butthole? Not kidding. Not trying to make a joke. I feel like I have sexual problems and I'm afraid I'll never have a boyfriend or even touch a gay guy and if we do somehow have sex how do I have it because it might be hard to try and fit a small penis. I know when I watch porn I love ripped muscles and huge cocks and I just don't know if a gay guy can like someone like me. At least I could lose the weight and gain muscle and don't tell me the penis is hiding under the fat because I can feel it, it's small.

You have no idea how much it would mean to me if I could just simply make out with a guy, even just a kiss or him letting me touch his butt would probably make me jizz in my pants. Yet I don't know if I have the courage to even try to talk to a gay guy or try and "seek them out" because I'm afraid of being discovered that I'm gay and I don't want people to hate me. I fantasize about having sex but am afraid no one will get turned on by my body. I always have dreams almost every night that I'm in an orgy and love it but then I wake up and feel shamed that I'll never have sex.

You need to be comfortable with yourself first. Confidence is a turn on.