UTI and Anal Sex. Any experience?

[CTD89]

Been in a committed relationship (no other men) between my boyfriend and I for a year and a half. Recently, after having unprotected anal sex for over a year (me top, him bottom), I believed I had a UTI (felt like I needed to pee more than I really needed to, not really any pain or other symptoms) so I went to the doctor. The tests for a UTI or chlamydia came back negative, but I still took antibiotics for 10 days, 1 at night, 1 in morning. While I missed a night or morning a few times, I finished the dose (took all the pills) in 12 days. This antibiotic was supposed to get rid of UTI or chlamydia.

So after 2 weeks, my boyfriend and I had unprotected anal sex last night. Everything was fine, although post sex I felt a small tingling feeling at the tip of my penis, and was worried it was a lingering UTI. Kinda annoying I never tested positive for a UTI, because it leaves me unsure! Is it all in my head? Am i more sensitive to any strange feelings down there because of this experience? Today, I am kinda playing it by ear, seeing if the symptoms last. I'd rather not have sex with my boyfriend with a condom every time, but maybe I need to. At least for awhile?

I was just wondering if anyone had any experience with this. I've read various things on the internet (as you always do, always conflicting opinions and facts hah) that say UTIs are fairly uncommon for males (yes), and also that anal sex is often not the cause (but can be misattributed to it).

The first time I noticed the UTI and went to the doctor, it had been weeks since we had anal sex (we've been busy with work/school/other things), but I do remember having a small tingling feeling a month or two ago (but thought nothing of it). So, needless to say, there's some evidence that it might be from anal sex. And would certainly make sense.

My BF doesn't douche or anything like that, and while everyone says you should have a decent bowel movement before anal, that can sometimes make my BF more sensitive back there, so we really just do it if it's natural and feels good for him. He'll tell me if it's not a good night, etc.

I know you all aren't medical professionals, and I may go see one again if this persists for a day or two longer. But wanted to get y'alls thoughts on anything my BF and I should do.

[Brett240]

OK, I am not a medical professional, just a medical student. However, your post concerns me. I don't know of any relationship between anal sex and standard UTIs. However, the anus contains a myriad of bacteria, some of which you could be sensitive or allergic to. My thought would be to see a specialist - a urologist, who understands the urinary tract and sexual health as well. Be entirely frank with him - trust me, they've heard it all and they won't judge. Specifically, tell him that when you perform unprotected anal sex on your partner, you experience certain symptoms. Explain the symptoms as exactly as you can. If there is some infectious process at work here, he will uncover it. And sorry, I don't mean to be sexist referring to the doctor as "he" - I do so for the sake of brevity, there are many excellent female urologists as well. Your choice. But look in to this problem and resolve it. People tend to try to ignore such concerns out of embarrassment - but trust me, experience physicians have heard it all and want to help, not judge,

[gaycraig]

Yes the anus is riddled with bacteria and one of the reasons they tell girls to wipe away from the vagina. Now we see idiots taking it up the ass then dipping it in the vagina and this is real bad practice. So we should expect the odd issue if we do anal. Now you might want your prostate checking if you are having more urge to urinate if there is little coming out, just a thought if that is a case as prostates can enlargen. A good remedy for the prostate is the homoeopathic Zincum Metallicum.

Aconitum apellus: This remedy is often useful when a person feels anxious both before and during urination, with hot, scanty urine, and a burning or spasmodic feeling in the outlet of the bladder. It can also be helpful if retention of urine occurs after a person has been very cold and chilled, or after a shaking experience.

Apis mellifica: This remedy is indicated when the person frequently needs to urinate, but only small quantities are passed. Stinging and burning sensations are felt (especially with the last few drops) and the person may also experience soreness in the abdomen. Heat and touch make the symptoms worse, and cold applications, cool bathing, and open air bring relief. A lack of thirst is another indication that Apis may be needed.

Belladonna: This remedy may be beneficial if urging to urinate is frequent and intense, and the bladder feels very sensitive. A cramping or writhing sensation may be felt in the bladder area. Small amounts of highly-colored urine pass. (This remedy is sometimes helpful if a person passes small amounts of blood and no serious cause can be found on medical examination.)

Berberis vulgaris: Cystitis with twinges of cutting pain, or a burning feeling that extends to the urethra and its opening, may indicate a need for this remedy. The passage may also burn at times when no attempt at urination is being made. After emptying the bladder, the person feels as if some urine still remains inside. Urging and discomfort are often worse from walking.

Cantharis: Strong urging to urinate—with cutting pains that are felt before the urine passes, as well as during and after—may indicate a need for this remedy. Only several drops pass at a time, with a scalding sensation. The person may feel as if the bladder has not been emptied, still feeling a constant urge to urinate.

Borax: This remedy can be helpful for cystitis with smarting pain in the urinary opening and aching in the bladder, with a feeling that the urine is retained. Children may cry or shriek, afraid to urinate because they know the pain is coming. Borax is often indicated for people who are sensitive to noise and inclined toward motion sickness.

Chimaphila umbellata: If a person has a troublesome urge to urinate but has to strain (or even stand up and lean forward) to make it pass, this remedy may be useful. A scalding sensation may be felt while the urine flows, with a feeling of straining afterward.

Clematis: This remedy may be indicated if a person has to urinate frequently with only a small amount being passed. A feeling of constriction is felt in the urinary passage, and the flow may be interrupted, or there may be dribbling afterward. A tingling sensation may occur, lasting long after urination is finished.

Equisetum: If cystitis is accompanied by dull but distressing pain and a feeling of fullness in the bladder, even after urinating, this remedy may be helpful. Urging and discomfort are more intense when the bladder has recently been emptied, improving over time as the bladder become more full.

Lycopodium: This remedy may be helpful if a person has to urinate frequently during the night and passes large amounts of urine. Or the person may feel a painful urge, but has to strain to make the urine flow. Pain may be felt in the back before the urine passes. (If fever is present, the urine has a reddish color, or discomfort is felt in the kidney region, the person should see a doctor.)

Nux vomica: Irritable bladder with a constant need to urinate, passing only small amounts, suggests a need for this remedy. Burning or cramping pain may be felt in the bladder area, with an itching sensation in the urethra while the urine passes. The person may feel very irritable, impatient, and chilly. Symptoms may be relieved by hot baths or other forms of warmth.

Sarsaparilla: This remedy is often useful in cystitis and often helps when symptoms are unclear, or if other remedies have not been effective. Frequent urging is felt, with burning pain at the end of urination. Urine passes when the person is standing up, but only dribbling occurs while sitting. Flakes or sediment are sometimes seen in the urine. (Sarsaparilla is sometimes helpful when stones are forming or the kidneys are involved; however, these conditions need a doctor’s care.)

Sepia: This remedy may be helpful if a person has to urinate frequently, with sudden urging, a sense that urine will leak if urination is delayed, and small amounts of involuntary urine loss. The person may experience a bearing-down feeling in the bladder region, or pressure above the pubic bone. A person who needs this remedy often feels worn-out and irritable, with cold extremities, and a lax or sagging feeling in the pelvic area.

Staphysagria: This remedy is often indicated for cystitis that develops in a woman after sexual intercourse, especially if sexual activity is new to her, or if cystitis occurs after every occasion of having sex. Pressure may be felt in the bladder after urinating, as if it is still not empty. A sensation that a drop of urine is rolling through the urethra, or a constant burning feeling, are other indications. Staphysagria is also useful for cystitis that develops after illnesses with extended bed rest, or after the use of catheters.

Homeopathy Dosage Directions
Select the remedy that most closely matches the symptoms. In conditions where self-treatment is appropriate, unless otherwise directed by a physician, a lower potency (6X, 6C, 12X, 12C, 30X, or 30C) should be used. In addition, instructions for use are usually printed on the label.

Many homeopathic physicians suggest that remedies be used as follows: Take one dose and wait for a response. If improvement is seen, continue to wait and let the remedy work. If improvement lags significantly or has clearly stopped, another dose may be taken. The frequency of dosage varies with the condition and the individual. Sometimes a dose may be required several times an hour; other times a dose may be indicated several times a day; and in some situations, one dose per day (or less) can be sufficient.

If no response is seen within a reasonable amount of time, select a different remedy.

[beakeradams]

I agree with Brett. Realize what your doing when he doesn't clean out first. It's like your ramming parts of bacteria up your urethra. Not that there is no germs if he does clean out first, but at least it's not hard and compacted. I always wash, the idea of what could happen and spoil the mood is horrific. If I were the top, I would lose my boner.

[East]

I thought about the anal sex thing being the culprit but I have decided that it is kidney stones what gave me my 4 UTI incidents...antibiotics did the trick and passing the stone helps for awhile...until the next one

[azulai]

What type of lube are you using? Oil based (baby oil, petroleum jelly) can harbor bacteria. Change to something water based like astroglide.

Other things you could try would be to pee immediately after sex to flush the urethra of bacteria and drink plenty of water.

You may want to drink some pure cranberry juice (not the cocktail with all the sugar). Studies have shown that cranberry juice taken with the antibiotics does NOT prevent UTIs but helps the body get rid of the infection. It has nothing to do with acidity as was once thought but inhibiting E. coli from adhering to the UT lining.

From research I know of tied to medical devices (catheters) and cranberry powder :biggrin: it was found that cranberry powder reduces the production of an enzyme that helps the infection spread in the case of proteus mirabilis bacteria while it limits the movement of the E. coli on a genetic level. These two are the usual causes of UTIs. I know this is probably more than you want to know but thought some might find it interesting. :tongue:

Only caution is not to over do it on the cranberry since it can contribute to the formation of kidney stones. The most common types of stones are calcium and oxalate. Cranberry decreases urine levels of Ca but increases urine levels of Mg, K, and oxalate. Drinking plenty of water is the main thing!!!

So my best advice would be to get cleared up with antibiotics, use condoms for a month or two, get new water based lube, and set a base line of no infection returning. Add some cranberry to your diet and drink lots of water. Then try without condoms.

I hope you feel better.

[LJay]

First of all, you are self diagnosing. That is not a good idea.

Gather a list of your symptoms and speak to a doctor.

Consider psychological factors.

Use condoms until you get this sorted out. Frankly they are never a bad idea.

Evaluate what you and your partner are doing in terms of common sense health and hygiene.

Both of you should be tested and not just one.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

One potential symptom is hardly sufficient to base a diagnosis.

And you said you felt that you were pissing more. May I ask upon which measured baseline of average urination you based that feeling upon?

While its true that millions of people end up with a UTI and women tend to get it more often than men, and that the leading cause is Escherichia coli (E. coli) bacteria, which normally live in the colon. It is remarkably difficult for any bacteria or virus to get through the battle lines of the urethra to lead to infection.

Why it affects women more is due to the plumbing and how close fecal matter (carrying the E. Coli) is to the urinary tract. Males typically have less chance of getting a UTI even if they are having vigorous anal sex. For one thing the opening is pretty small and your urethra is much tighter than a woman's vagina. Then there is the post coitus urge to piss which exists to flush out matter, such as post ejaculate left over bits and of course to stymie any potential invaders.

Women, on the other hand, are designed to hold on to anything deposited up there. Something about how procreation happens and there being a need for a bit of time for semen to reach an egg before being flushed out of the plumbing. If women pissed immediately after sex all the time, the chances of semen meeting an egg would be much lower.

And immediately after sex a tingling sensation would not be indicative of infection. Infections require time for the new colony to achieve a population high enough to register to the macro body. More often than not such colonization fails because the body has an advanced weapons and military force to fight off the few potential colonizers when they land upon the shores of your body.


Immediate post sex tingling would be more indicative of an allergy or sensitivity to something. Most likely the lube you are using.

A good test for sensitivity/allergy to the lube is to rub a drop on the inner forearm, and allow it to sit there for half an hour (or less if symptoms start to present). Redness, tingling, burning, rash breaking out is indicative of sensitivity/allergy to the lube.

I already dislike your doctor. S/he threw antibiotics at you even though the single symptom is inconclusive and a follow up test of potential infections were negative. Earth is currently seeing a startling rise in super-bugs, antibiotic resistant strains of bacteria that are being created by over use of antibiotics.

The lack of a condom and the use of lube may be more indicative of sensitivity/allergy to the lube you are using. And that is based on the symptom of tingling which may be more psychosomatic due to your earlier episode of feeling there was an issue.

So test the lube and go from there. IF there is a reaction on your forearm, then I strongly suggest you compare various types of lube that are on the market, test each one on your forearm before running an experiment on your dick.

If there is no reaction, and you are still presenting some sort of symptom that you feel is related to the urinary tract, then ask your GP for referral to a specialist.

I do know that a prostate infection can cause frequent urination, and diabetes - so there are other potentials there that have not been ruled out.

Furthermore, there are other tests and procedures to find out if there really is a UTI. Scoping can be fun and an interesting experience. (no not really, I lied).