Is it ok to date a man much older than you?

[Anonymous]

I know I like him and he's been very good to me, even too good and I like being with him and spending time with him, but I believe he's too old for me. And I don't know why would he want to have sex with me when it would be the worst sex ever, I guess you can't expect anything good from someone who's virgin. I believe he suspects that I'm one.

No, he doesn't know where I live and I'm not out to anyone. My parents would kill me if they knew I'm gay.

[Cuddly]

I know I like him and he's been very good to me, even too good and I like being with him and spending time with him, but I believe he's too old for me. And I don't know why would he want to have sex with me when it would be the worst sex ever, I guess you can't expect anything good from someone who's virgin. I believe he suspects that I'm one.

No, he doesn't know where I live and I'm not out to anyone. My parents would kill me if they knew I'm gay.

Where are you from?

There's nothing wrong with being inexperienced. It seems your stalkerdaddy likes to take care of you, which is cute, and that would (most likely) also extend to the bedroom. We all start somewhere and he's old enough to know that. Honestly I think making love to a virgin could have its appeal. Seeing your eyes when you're touched for the first time etc.. Don't you understand that some would find that attractive?

If you think he's too old for you, then that's that. Many of us are having amazing experiences with huge age-gap relationships though, so don't let that be the thing stopping you.

[Anonymous]

I'm from the UK.

Do you really think he's stalker? Then I probably should be careful.

He has never implied he wants sex, we've never even talked about it. Probably I wouldn't even think about it, but now when he invited me to his place, this was the first thought that came into my mind.

[Mark]

I'm from the UK.

Do you really think he's stalker? Then I probably should be careful.

He has never implied he wants sex, we've never even talked about it. Probably I wouldn't even think about it, but now when he invited me to his place, this was the first thought that came into my mind.

I'd still push to hang out in public first. You don't seem very sure about him so for me alarm bells are ringing - if you are going to pursue this then do it with caution - yes he may be bad but theres also the same percentage he's fine.

As for the comment about why he'd want sex with you or something.. There are guys that rather get with virgins just to say they can! But again maybe he just would want to share that with you!

Either way. It may or not lead to sex I'd advise for it to not lead that way BUT if you are going to meet up again please please make sure its only in public especially if you aren't telling family/friends.

[Cuddly]

I'm from the UK.

Do you really think he's stalker? Then I probably should be careful.

He has never implied he wants sex, we've never even talked about it. Probably I wouldn't even think about it, but now when he invited me to his place, this was the first thought that came into my mind.

If you're from the UK your parents certainly won't kill you for being gay
I know it seems like a really big deal to you, right now, and it will be a big deal for your parents too, but other than that nobody cares. Being gay has (thankfully) become so "normal" that we get to be left alone, more or less. Atleast that's how I feel about it.

I don't know what he is. But I didn't feel good about calling him your sugardaddy, so I just replaced the sugar with whatever I could come up with. Sorry if I scared you needlessly.

What made you think he wants sex? I'm amazed you can keep away. Had it been me, when I was a young virgin, my cock would've seized me by the throat and marched me right onto his threshold and rung his doorbell. "Let me in pls, me horny"
But I'm attracted to older, hairy, large guys. Gaycommonly known as bears. That's why I asked if you were attracted to him. It's kind of a deal breaker if you're not, don't you think?

What I mean to say is, good job keeping your pants on and coming here for some advice before rushing into things.

And I agree with Marky. If you're not sure of his intentions, maybe you should start off on a restaurant or at a coffee shop or whatever, as long as it's public.

[Anonymous]

Well, he has always been good to me and I don't believe he would hurt me or something, but if not sex, then why else would he invite me to his place?

I've always been quite shy and quiet person and even if I like someone, I usually don't show it that obviously. And I can't remember the last time I was horny.

[Cuddly]

Well, he has always been good to me and I don't believe he would hurt me or something, but if not sex, then why else would he invite me to his place?

I've always been quite shy and quiet person and even if I like someone, I usually don't show it that obviously. And I can't remember the last time I was horny.

I don't really understand what is going on, so I can't really say why else he would invite you to his place. There has to be a reason you assume he invites you over for sex. Has he come on to you before? Anything to suggest he's gay? Anything to suggest he's into you, other than him helping you with your schooltrouble and whatnot?
He could invite you to his place just to hear how things are going, after he helped you with school. Or to offer you a job in his business. Or to ask you to mow the lawn while he's away on holiday. I wouldn't invite a guy over for dinner to tell him that, but it doesn't necesarily have to be sex... There could be other reasons

I'm a shy and quiet person too. Most of us on gayspeak are.

The last time you masturbated, you were horny.

[trialbyerror]

Hi There

To the OP, I will weigh in on this, but will first compose edit Then post.

This is an Important issue, As I am 56 Yo, and having been in 2 long term relations with very much older men, when I was younger, I think I have a contribution to make.

Please won't you search A "mutts" tale in the meantime? <use the quotation marks>

Thanks for raising this issue

Regards
Trial

[Miles]

Hi There

To the OP, I will weigh in on this, but will first compose edit Then post.

This is an Important issue, As I am 56 Yo, and having been in 2 long term relations with very much older men, when I was younger, I think I have a contribution to make.

Please won't you search A "mutts" tale in the meantime? <use the quotation marks>

Thanks for raising this issue

Regards
Trial

lemme get that for ya http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25783

[Anonymous]

Yes, I know he's gay. He told it to me himself. He has held my hand and hugged me, also told me that I'm very beautiful guy. All these physical gestures are ok with me and it's nice to feel that I'm possibly important to someone. Once I kissed him on the cheek, because I was so happy about something he did for me. So maybe it's my fault too.