05-30-2014, 08:43 PM
I need an advice about what to do with this situation in my life. Iâve a boyfriend, weâre together for 7 years already. We met when it was very hard for me to come out as gay and when I finally did, he was there with me and he supported me a lot, he understood me like no one ever had. We fell in love and we were happy. Weâve always been together through thick and thin, weâve always cared for each other, we loved each other a lot. All this time I couldnât imagine I could be together with someone else but him, I was sure that heâs my partner for life.
However now, after 7 years I feel that something has changed. It feels like something has burned out inside of me. I donât know how or when exactly it happened, but I donât love him like I did before. Sometimes it even feels like I donât love him at all anymore and that Iâm together with him just because Iâm used to him and I know him well. Itâs not because I have someone else in mind, Iâm not in love with some other guy. Heâs still very important to me , but love is something more than that and I feel like itâs gone. Weâre still doing everything as a couple â kissing, cuddling, having sex, but I donât feel the spark of it anymore. I wouldnât even call it making love, now for me sex with him is just that â sex. I donât see my future with him anymore and Iâm not sure heâs the person I want to spend my life with. So Iâve came to the conclusion that the best for us would be to break up.
He doesnât know anything about my plans. Many times I wanted to discuss it with him, but every time the timing somehow wasn't right or I just didnât have the heart to tell him. I know this is probably going to hurt him a lot, because often he says things like âwhat would I do without youâ or âIâm so lucky to have youâ. I see that from his side nothing has changed, he loves me just as much as he did 7 years ago, if not more. I feel it in every his action, the way he looks at me, the way he cares for me.
I donât want to hurt him as he doesnât deserve it, heâs a wonderful person and through these years he has done very much things for me that Iâll never forget and will always be grateful for. Heâs a very beautiful person, but somehow I donât see him as my other half anymore. It seems so cruel to just tell him âweâre breaking upâ, but I have to do it and I donât know how.
However now, after 7 years I feel that something has changed. It feels like something has burned out inside of me. I donât know how or when exactly it happened, but I donât love him like I did before. Sometimes it even feels like I donât love him at all anymore and that Iâm together with him just because Iâm used to him and I know him well. Itâs not because I have someone else in mind, Iâm not in love with some other guy. Heâs still very important to me , but love is something more than that and I feel like itâs gone. Weâre still doing everything as a couple â kissing, cuddling, having sex, but I donât feel the spark of it anymore. I wouldnât even call it making love, now for me sex with him is just that â sex. I donât see my future with him anymore and Iâm not sure heâs the person I want to spend my life with. So Iâve came to the conclusion that the best for us would be to break up.
He doesnât know anything about my plans. Many times I wanted to discuss it with him, but every time the timing somehow wasn't right or I just didnât have the heart to tell him. I know this is probably going to hurt him a lot, because often he says things like âwhat would I do without youâ or âIâm so lucky to have youâ. I see that from his side nothing has changed, he loves me just as much as he did 7 years ago, if not more. I feel it in every his action, the way he looks at me, the way he cares for me.
I donât want to hurt him as he doesnât deserve it, heâs a wonderful person and through these years he has done very much things for me that Iâll never forget and will always be grateful for. Heâs a very beautiful person, but somehow I donât see him as my other half anymore. It seems so cruel to just tell him âweâre breaking upâ, but I have to do it and I donât know how.