Being gay

[novice]

Even online dating can be dependent on what site you are using.

True. If you get few to no responses it is highly depressing as well. People where I live must have very high "standards" because even with decent looks/photos doesn't "work". Although often above 35-40 it doesn't matter how good you look - you are not even considered solely due to that.

[jimcrackcorn]

Your in that age bracket where most of the men your age are either in a relationship, or just coming out of a long term relationship - and not looking for anything substantial.

A lot of gay men are not into the gay nightlife/bar scene, and they are much harder to reach.

You need to expand in areas where you haven't tried yet. Bowling leagues, golfing, hiking, biking, car clubs, gay friendly churches etc.

Networking ---- Your gay friends will have other gay friends that they can introduce you to. Even your straight friends may know someone that's gay and eligible. So,, let it be known that your looking for someone to spend your life with.

Shoot,,,, I'd even get your Parents involved by asking them if they know any eligible gay bachelors that you can meet. Ok,,, that's a little extreme, but you never know!!!

I'd also use dating sites, and even the personals on Craigslist. Leave no stone unturned until you find the right guy.

Finding a guy is hard, and it doesn't get much easier after you've found him because then you gotta work at keeping him. Urgggg,,, life isn't for the faint of heart.

Happy Hunting,
Jim

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Oddly, you make all of these complaints, but you never tried me.

Good guys are out there. Thing is most of us stay away from bars and hook-up scenes.

BTW I have only had 6 relationships, the shortest was 6 months, the longest 14 years. The others were about 2years.

That is about 22.5 years I was in a relationship. Out of 48 years.

Short ones happened in my 20's, the longest after 30. That is actually pretty typical.

No relationships are not easy, yet is very hard to find a compatible person and yes there is a lot of those out there who are pieces of work.

The older you are the more prone you are to find a stable, very long term relationship. It is typical of all members of your species.

So hang in there.... He is out there, waiting for you.

[HIkerSkier]

I don't know what you have done for work, but could part of the problem be Reno? I haven't been there in quite a while, but isn't it mostly a party town, with people coming there to gamble and see shows (a few skiers in the winter) and a lot of the population working in clubs/bars/casinos (late night work environments)? Just a wild guess here, but you might find more normal gaylife (and thus more guys in the dating pool) in a more run-of-the-mill urban area. It will be interesting when the US Census bureau releases more speicific data on same-sex partnered men in different cities and towns.

[novice]

Location could be part of it - I don't know anyone where I live but almost all of my ex bf's friends either:

1. didn't have bf's
2. didn't date that much (or if they did it was w/ a series of the wrong types going nowhere)
3. weren't at all happy about not having bf's/dates &/or being/getting old, etc.

NOT an optimistic picture. My ex's sister even told me he was a little down "getting old" (50th B-Day recently) and being out of work for awhile felt "he didn't have much to offer anyone right now" - yet HE has two guys who desperately want to date him AND many, many friends. IF HE "has nothing to offer" I am in serious trouble since I have 10x less than that going for me.

SO, WTF or how much it takes to make someone happy IDK. Life sucks but gay life just seems to add several more layers of difficulty to it.

[friscofitseas]

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[Wolfpack]

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Hi lad putting your number on here is not really a good idea, but you can chat with people on here by using the forum.

[50Plus]

Oddly, you make all of these complaints, but you never tried me.

Good guys are out there. Thing is most of us stay away from bars and hook-up scenes.

What BA says. There are singles on this site. Start with the positive attitude and who knows where things might lead to.

Don't overlook the 'law of attraction' which essentially is about growing your network. One suggestion - put our picture out there for others to see. Its amazing what simple little things can do.

[Virge]

SUCKS. Makes me want to kill myself. Impossible to meet guys & even if you do they can't be relied on. Short relationships & constant chase for who knows what. Either popularity or beauty contest. Depressing.

This is tough advice but once you get it in your head you can change everything.

If you aren't the person you look forward to spending the rest of your life with don't be disappointed if no one wants to do it for you.

The only person you can improve to meet your expectations is yourself. Work on that and all of a sudden everyone else will seem a lot easier to be around and like.