06-14-2014, 08:48 PM
My boyfriend and me, we’re together for four months now and basically I could say I feel really good in these relationships. He’s a very nice guy and although we’re not together for a long time yet, I feel very good with him.
However a problem has appeared in our relationships and it’s about sex. He has began to talk dirty to me, which I dislike very much. The first time it happened at some night when we were having sex and suddenly he just asked „you like that, don’t you, bitch?†I was like „what did you say†and my mood was totally down in the same moment. The same night he also slapped my butt, lightly, but still it was very unpleasant to me. The next morning I told him I didn’t like what happened last night, his words and his actions. He apologized to me and he said he just happened to say that. We both agreed that he won’t do that again. However the next time we made love it did it again,only then he called me a slut and made other comments that I won’t write here. When I talked about it the next day, he apologized again. But what’s the point of it? He apologizes and then does the same again the next time.
I know some people get turned on by words like these, but definitely not me. In fact, for me there could be no bigger turn-off. Usually he calls me baby, why couldn’t he do that in bed as well? That would be nice and I’d appreciate that a lot. I’m his boyfriend after all and I want to be treated with love, not like some prostitute from the railway station. He says that he just gets carried away with passion and tells me not to pay attention to something he says that I don't like. Yes, of course, I could tolerate that for him, but then it would eventually lead to the end of our relationships. Because once I’m being called in some disgracing word, I cannot enjoy sex anymore, I could as well turn my back to him and go to sleep.
We've talked many times about it and it seems that he believes it's not big deal. But it is for me. I want to have a good sex with someone who doesn't treat me like a whore. He's very good person and I'm satisfied with him in everything and I was also satisfied in bed before he started this. What would you advice me?
However a problem has appeared in our relationships and it’s about sex. He has began to talk dirty to me, which I dislike very much. The first time it happened at some night when we were having sex and suddenly he just asked „you like that, don’t you, bitch?†I was like „what did you say†and my mood was totally down in the same moment. The same night he also slapped my butt, lightly, but still it was very unpleasant to me. The next morning I told him I didn’t like what happened last night, his words and his actions. He apologized to me and he said he just happened to say that. We both agreed that he won’t do that again. However the next time we made love it did it again,only then he called me a slut and made other comments that I won’t write here. When I talked about it the next day, he apologized again. But what’s the point of it? He apologizes and then does the same again the next time.
I know some people get turned on by words like these, but definitely not me. In fact, for me there could be no bigger turn-off. Usually he calls me baby, why couldn’t he do that in bed as well? That would be nice and I’d appreciate that a lot. I’m his boyfriend after all and I want to be treated with love, not like some prostitute from the railway station. He says that he just gets carried away with passion and tells me not to pay attention to something he says that I don't like. Yes, of course, I could tolerate that for him, but then it would eventually lead to the end of our relationships. Because once I’m being called in some disgracing word, I cannot enjoy sex anymore, I could as well turn my back to him and go to sleep.
We've talked many times about it and it seems that he believes it's not big deal. But it is for me. I want to have a good sex with someone who doesn't treat me like a whore. He's very good person and I'm satisfied with him in everything and I was also satisfied in bed before he started this. What would you advice me?