Cheating boyfriend = unbearable pain

[zeon]

Hiya,
Leaving this guy m,aybe is the right option but yet again maybe isnt... Whats your heart say?? In my relationship i said to my boyfriend... "I got one ground rule" - Your my partner not my possession. Now for the next bit.. In every relationship you do tend to find that someone may or may have doubts in straying off for like a taster... However if your able to forgive your boyfriend then it is worth keeping the relationship as he may have had an urge i mean us men in general we see something we like it takes our fancy and makes us more needing the experience with that guy..
Another option to maybe cope with this is an "open relationship" Now this doesnt work with everyone but if you guys did set to go ahead with it or even try it you both need to come to an agreement.. (Me and my boyfriend are not in an open relationship but used to be and it didnt work for us..) If you guys had an agreement i wouldnt recommend however it be done as like a three way party thing.. Reason being is that you would find one would receive less attention than the other making things aqward in any relationship..

The best thing you can do babes is talk to him about this and plan where your going to go from here onwards.. Maybe suggest a bit of role play in ya relationship or something to curb his sex drive and whatnot.. I have got a higher drive on sex than my boyfriend but usually a course of masturbation curbs it.. Maybe suggest that to your partner it may curb his and his not causing you any offence other than trying to sleep on a self motivated earthquaked bed



Take care and kindest regards... Hope you guys can repair the damage and pull through together..

Zeon x

[OMGL]

Hi well my B/F cheated on me 10 years ago and were still together, we worked through our problems, and if there is any chance to work together you have nothing to loose, for a while i would not let him out of my sight thinking he would do it again, but the trust has come back, and we couldnt be any better,

[rk07]

Hey Wiltur

Considering whether he reeli has got this physical/mental problem, If I was you I wud still not ignore my feelings. It is good trying to help him and all that BUT, for the sake of the relationship and I'd say for the sake of myself..I wud take a break.....deffo some time to think about wot to do next.
I wud advise you guys not 2 see/talk to eachothers, for a week, or better? a month.
Hang out with your friends and do all the things you usually do during your normal days.
No communication with eachothers whatsoever.
It might be one morning, it might be one night when you will really understand what is the best for your relationship....
Forgive him? - Break up?
Your heart should tell you....just follow that message when u get it and you shall never regret it (hopefully).

All the best!

Rik

[cooperjames]

I don't mean to be rude Wiltur, I am so sorry you have been hurt, I really am but can I give a you little advice


LEAVE HIM !

I will probably get my head bitten off for this, but this is just my opinion....

This whole incident will cause you to distrust him in the future and the jealousy will eat away at you..... Jealousy is such a destructive emotion, Trust me.

You say he has been unfaithful 4 times behind your back......... UNACCEPTABLE


Then you find out he is swapping pictures of himself in chat rooms without you knowing......... UNACCEPTABLE


You say he has trouble controlling his hormones, then who is to say he won't do it again ???


Sorry mister, if you are a faithful man and entered into a faithful relationship then that's what you deserve..... A MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP.


But hey it's up to you what you do.......



If you think you can make a go of things then BRILLIANT, but please don't waist your time and emotion on something that you know wont work in the end


I mean you would think you knew him after 4 years together


Much love mister and I really do wish you all the best for the future


This is just my personal opinion

xxxxx

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