Can Hookups Turn Into Relationships?

[Virge]

Old? Who are you calling OLD? I'm just getting warmed up... try to keep up!

yeah. you called me out on that right on times for sure. Today I'm operating on half speed physically and mentally so I'm the one needing to borrow your walker and depends. ugh.

[Virge]

First, guys, you need to take n consideration that you are not the op, you don't think the same way, hooking up wanting a relationship can lead to disastrous results, I do have friends who began as hook ups but the key is that none were seeking a relationship out of the other, they began as friends and sex partners and slowly began developing feelings, you see, it moved naturally, not forced, to tell a guy, who really wants a relationship to throw himself into the hook up world seems recklessly to me.

To the op, follow your instinct, if hook ups aren't for you go on with that, if you want to fall in love, there is no fail-proof formula, you don't seek love, love finds you when you least expect it, but if you want to give it a push, make more friends, go out, have fun, meet different people until inevitably you find that special someone

I guess I made a mistake.
I read the OP's question "Can Hookups Turn Into Relationships?" and made this silly assumption he was capable of composing questions to obtain the information he asked for instead of what others interpret him to be asking for.

I also gave him credit for having enough sense to take the answers he received and processing them to ask questions and go into deeper issues all own his own.

[East]

I'm with Twisttheleaf on this and say Borg and East both were on target and speak with authority since they're both old old old men.... (LOL)....

Me...old? LOL...you must be talking about that "other" East

I have to say...when it comes to sex and dating...most of my advice is probably only good for the young sluts and/or people who want to see things a little differently.....

...but the part about being able to be happy without a relationship is true across the board...

[Virge]

Me...old? LOL...you must be talking about that "other" East

I have to say...when it comes to sex and dating...most of my advice is probably only good for the young sluts and/or people who want to see things a little differently.....

...but the part about being able to be happy without a relationship is true across the board...

Well. Funny you'd mention advice, isn't it?
It's finally sinking into my head that prolly about 90% of the people who ask for advice are really just looking for someone to tell them what they've already made up their mind about is as stupid as they think it is.

[SIZE="2"]Guys you have to excuse me for not being my normal self today and tonight. It's been pretty hectic here the past few days and I'm not getting much sleep... and broke 2 ribs in the dark last night being stupid. I promise to do better tomorrow.
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[Borg69]

Broke 2 ribs? That's some foreplay!

[East]

Well. Funny you'd mention advice, isn't it?
It's finally sinking into my head that prolly about 90% of the people who ask for advice are really just looking for someone to tell them what they've already made up their mind about is as stupid as they think it is.

[SIZE="2"]Guys you have to excuse me for not being my normal self today and tonight. It's been pretty hectic here the past few days and I'm not getting much sleep... and broke 2 ribs in the dark last night being stupid. I promise to do better tomorrow.
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OUCH!!!! Hey...take care of yourself..damnit! That's an order...

[Bowyn Aerrow]

No.

Just think "No" and leave it at that.

There are way too many people who come here and ask us how to make a person love them, or they tell us that they are deeply, madly and profoundly in love with their fuck-buddy that they met on Grind'r or some other hook-up only site/app. Meanwhile that fuck-buddy just wants a whore - nay, they don't pay for sex, so it is slut they are looking for.

As for movies for life lessons/facts. I recently watched a movie with a black president an the world ended in major catastrophe - shall we worry because Obama is black?

No - because we know its a fiction.... Same with that movie you watched - fiction.

Are you a prude - yes. Be proud of that. My ex wasn't that much of a prude, he has HIV, and now has Hep C too. Most likely is aiming for a full hand of STD's before he kicks the bucket.

Look, I have only been with 8 guys willingly in my 48 years of life. Two of those were honest attempts at being a slut (casual sex only) - it left me dissatisfied - I learned that I'm not wired that way and stuck with just sex with partners in a relationship. Of which there were 6 honest attempts at relationships under my belt.

I didn't die from lack of sex.

Yes my friends made fun of me. Guess what, I have buried most of them because their lifestyle choices lead to interesting deaths. I lost friends to full blown AIDS before their were treatments.

So I might be a prude, but I'm a living prude. I'm not having to take a cocktail of $3000+ a month drugs to keep infection from taking over.

I also don't get mixed signals from a fuck-buddy, I don't fall in love with a casual sex person, I don't worry about not being kissed by a guy because he only kisses people he is in a relationship with and he's not with me.

Those things - you don't like them, they don't do "it" for you? Well that is telling you that you are not wired for casual sex so you should stop it.

You're only 25. you got at least 20 years before you expire and run out of options.

Be patient, wait it out, stick to your guns and damn those who laugh and make jokes about your 'saving' yourself for a lover. That's their problem if they don't like it - you ain't fucking them no matter how much they beg - right?

[Virge]

Broke 2 ribs? That's some foreplay!

Foreplay? *Right*
I woke up in a daze to take a leak, tripped over a dog and landed in the floor on a tool box... maybe 3 ribs. Room mate is a EMT and freaked when he saw me without a shirt this afternoon and played doctor like there something that can be done about them. All day I went around thinking I'd just slept wrong last night. I've been in a foul mood all day and never associated the fall last night with the pain this morning. Yes I am that stupid. If I get some decent sleep tonight I'll be fine in the morning.

[JimmyEcho]

Memechose
I'm with Twisttheleaf on this and say Borg and East both were on target and speak with authority since they're both old old old men.... (LOL)....
You were in the military? Ha, I'm still probably more Rock solid than you. (I'm talking about my body)

[JimmyEcho]

I meant to quote Memechose on the ""I'm with Twisttleaf"" part.--sorry.

Drinking Vodka now that he's asleep.