It takes a good amount of strength to catch a guy and accept that he's not the right one for you and let him go again. A lot of people grab on and just cling, no matter how many things stack up against their partner to make them less and less compatable for them, yeah?
Loneliness can be difficult, and I see from your other posts that you're also dealing with some depression as well.
Wolfpack, in your other thread about depression, had some good ideas for you that would help with not just depression but also with your feelings of loneliness.
You need to start structuring your days. Even if you don't break down every hour of your day, set aside at least 1-2 hours a day for activity. Something that involves getting -out- of the house and into public, even if that means going to a park for a jog or to a gym, etc.
You should also try planning at least a couple times a week to hang out with other people. I'm not talking about potential partners or other gay people.... just people. Friends or acquaintances. Find a group either through school or your local community that has interests you're drawn to and GO to their meetings, etc.
Speaking as someone who deals with clinical depression regularly, I know it can be hard to motivate yourself but you really need to PUSH and make yourself do these things. Both exercise and social contact help with both depression and feelings of loneliness. You need to be proactive in caring for yourself. Not just the simple crap like brushing your teeth, pulling yourself out of bed, showering daily, etc. But the stuff like what I list above as well.
Also from your other thread...
Bowyn Aerrow Wrote:A therapist will give you coping tools and might even figure out the root cause of the situational part of the depression.
Some, perhaps many, people have what I call situation depression, its not a chemical imbalance, its stuff in life that drags them down. More often than if one deals with the stuff dragging you down you can snap out of depression. If you wait too long, then a situational depression can become a chemical depression, meaning that you have been sad for X amount of time and your body has just decided to go with it and maintain the depressing chemicals as depression levels.
So you need to consider how long you have been depressed. If its something relatively new and you can trace it back to a break up, a death, a life change - then you need to work on those or that causing circumstance, work through it process it, go through the stages of grief and reach acceptance.
I really encourage you to look into a counselor or therapist. Someone who can help you ascertain the tools you need to help you pull yourself out of the slump you're feeling and teach you the tools you need to both dig yourself out, but also keep yourself from sliding back in again.
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