Cues in the Gay Dating World

[Adam]

Well, I was way off base. I was honest tonight and he said he was sorry if I got the wrong idea, but he's not interested in anything more than a friendship. Oh well...

You didn't get the "wrong impression"". You got exactly the impression he wanted you to get. The guy's a cock-tease and not worth worrying about. God, I DETEST guys who play that game...

[ETOTE]

^agreed.

There are plenty of women who also play that same game.



But, one other possibility is the guy could have lost interest or decided to shy away completely as a result of "the talk."

As was previously mentioned by Meme, myself and several others, OP, you should have simply let your actions do the talking, that way it gives him a clear understanding that you wanted what he wanted and IF and when you had your hand down his pants he could then decide to move it further along. Being in the heat of the moment he most likely would have "given in" to his obvious desire.

[IndependentDude]

I spoke my peace about the situation because he had been flirty with a mutual friend. Apparently he had moved on from me when I was out of town over the weekend and spent the. Night with him at least one night. From what someone told me, this guy said that he would have been hanging out with me had I been in town.

This has definitely been a lesson learned situation.

[starbelly]

Lol you, OP, are beyond me. If I were fortunate enough to have a guy hanging out at my place cuddling, making out with me, and checking in on me during a road trip, I'd be thinking about wedding bells. Basically the only thing left for him to do to express his affection is fuck you. In other words— pretty damn clear he like *likes* you. If you're interested (which it seems you are), go get 'im!

[IndependentDude]

Lol you, OP, are beyond me. If I were fortunate enough to have a guy hanging out at my place cuddling, making out with me, and checking in on me during a road trip, I'd be thinking about wedding bells. Basically the only thing left for him to do to express his affection is fuck you. In other words— pretty damn clear he like *likes* you. If you're interested (which it seems you are), go get 'im!

Do I continue to explore this situation? Or move on? I'm not a game-player, but I do honestly know that there is some chemistry between us. He still wants to hang out. I catch him staring at me constantly at work & always coming to me to make conversation. He wants to follow through with a road trip we had planned before everything went down last weekend. I'm just not sure if I should file him under "friends only" and move on. What infuriates me most about this situation is that it all seems so junior high... and I am definitely too old to be playing junior high crush games.

[meridannight]

i agree that the kissing made this thing very obvious. personally, once i find myself kissing a man, no matter which one of us started it, i am 100% convinced that he is okay with a lot more from there. i haven't kissed a single guy who turned out to want to be just friends with me.

one thing that sticks out to me though: he ''moved on'' after just one weekend when you were out of town? how long is his attention span? a couple of minutes? this is not what a guy who is interested in another (romantically or sexually) does. he may spend the night with someone else when you're not there and when he isn't even sure you are interested, but being interested in you before the weekend, and not being interested in you after you're gone for 2-3 days, – do i need to spell out the obvious?

he sounds good for a couple of night stands when his mood happens to coincide with yours, but outside that my impression is he's an unstable and superficial presence.

my advice is, if you like him that much, you might try sex if it looks like it could go there. but forget about anything more serious than that. find someone better.

[ETOTE]

Do I continue to explore this situation? Or move on?

You opposed to an NSA FWB?

[Virge]

It's been a week since this thread began. I was optimistic and hoped I'd come back and read a sticky gooey account of two guys and their bodily fluids......

I'm running out to get a banana split with extra nuts and whipped cream.

Anyone need anything?

[skWolf]

It's been a week since this thread began. I was optimistic and hoped I'd come back and read a sticky gooey account of two guys and their bodily fluids......

I'm running out to get a banana split with extra nuts and whipped cream.

LOL Why do I always seem to find myself laughing at your responses!

To the OP, signs were all there, making out is a dead giveaway that he wants more, but maybe just as friends with benefits, if he "got over you" as he said over a weekend!