I was a bit stunned to read that your straight friends would say such things.
"These things don't work out", as in gayness is just a phase or that we're all just horndogs wanting to bang every guy that walks by and naturally will not be able to settle for a monogamous relationship??
I hope (s)he lies awake at night thinking "oh what a dumb dumb thing to say! It came out all wrong!!".
It's particularly weird coming from a guy who's divorced himself...
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I just think it is another expectation that those attracted to the same sex are supposed to be the better than those who are not. I believe it is in the best interest of the LGBT community for the next two decades to show a very low divorce rate and for those divorces to remain as private as possible. The reason behind a same-sex divorces will ONLY "prove" some reason to ban same-sex marriage.
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Heterosexuals have been programmed all their lives to think in a "it's all about us" mentality and as accepting as they might try to be about gays, they still run it through their heterosexual version of reality in order to process it.
They can't help it. Not even my own amazing supportive parents and brother are able to shake off their heterocentric thinking. Every time I catch them doing it and point it out they give me the deer with a face full of headlights dumass stare like their brain just shut off. I caught my dad in a big one awhile back and knocked the breath out him about it. He's got three patients i know of with HIV, all heterosexual single mothers. While I was at the lab for routine blood work a gay guy came in for blood work and BY THE LOOK ON HIS FACE when he saw me I knew he'd been sent for a HIV test even though he's been in a MANogomous relationship for a bunch of years. So when I saw Dad I asked...
"how many gay patients do you have with HIV?"
Answer: None.
"So why do you send married gay men for HIV tests and not unmarried mothers?"
And for ten seconds he did a bobblehead imitation while his brain absorbed it all.
And I'm sorry to say this.... but most gays do quite a bit of heterocentric thinking. Don't argue about it yet. I'm going to be on here a while and I'll come back with links to threads as examples.
All the research they done on what causes people to be gay has proven time and time again gay brains and straight brains are not the same. By the way heterosexual brains work I kid people that heterosexual brains will one day be classified as a form of mental retardation. They can't help it so you just have to embarrass the fuck out of them when they do it and get ready for them to do it again in 48 hours.
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Upon observation and examination of most straight couples I know, I become nauseous. Not sure why gay people want that misery, too but I'm glad we are at least getting the freedom to opt in.
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