Could you critique me? This is about being transgender.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Well if you are serious about transition.... There is therapy you will go through, both physical and mental/emotional.

Part of the physical therapy are hormone treatments to shut down your testosterone and replace with estrogen (amongst others).

The process time varies from individual to individual, however most m-f transitions take place rapidly as we all started out as female in the womb, the penis is a secondary thought in the development of the fetus.

Its actually real easy to lose muscle tone. Over the three years I have lost a lot of mine - mostly due to stress issues and not eating - some through sickness. Gaining muscle is harder, to lose it you simply stop using it in excess and it evaporates.

The main problem for you right now is you're eating 6000 calories a day (is that right?), if you stop using your muscle then your body will convert what it doesn't burn into fat.

So you need to go on a diet.

And not just any diet.

You trained your body not only for muscle, but to require large amounts of calories. Now you need to transition from lots of volume of food to lower volumes. That requires tricking your body into thinking it is full by eating higher amounts of low caloric foods like vegetables. You still end up feeling full, but you are starving your body a little for the calories, weening it back off of them.

Something like this should really, seriously be discussed with your doctor. So I strongly suggest you do not stop or change your daily habits until you have talked to your doctor, got a physical, and a baseline on all manner of things, such as your baseline Testosterone and Estrogen.

If you start a mucked up diet NOW - when it comes to take those tests the results will be muddled, and once you start hormone therapy it may not be effective enough, or worse be too effective and lead to complications.

And... There are things you will not be able to change which will have an impact on your end goal.

Like the skeleton - nothing you can do is going to increase the size of your pelvis, reduce the width of your shoulders, or for that matter make your feet smaller. All three of which you have in manly proportions.


Losing more weight as in fat mayn't be the right move. Understand you are angular (your bones make you that way) and this is due to your masculinity, which this late on the puberty train you can't undo. Thus in order to have the appearance of those rounder, more womanly angles you will need fat on top of those bones to hide/disguise your masculine frame.

Trannies who go on diets to try to achieve 'perfect mass' (underweight really) end up being all angular and stick out here and there with their bones. This leads to them (when wearing a dress) taking us to the uncanny valley. The bones say 'male' the dress and makeup say female and the two just clash in a horrific way in the minds of the majority, triggering their revulsion tendency.

So physically you have what you have to work with. If you are going to transition, you need to start where you are NOW with a doctor. Don't go mucking up what you have going on trying to become a woman on your own.

[TwisttheLeaf]

Losing more weight as in fat mayn't be the right move. Understand you are angular (your bones make you that way) and this is due to your masculinity, which this late on the puberty train you can't undo. Thus in order to have the appearance of those rounder, more womanly angles you will need fat on top of those bones to hide/disguise your masculine frame.

Trannies who go on diets to try to achieve 'perfect mass' (underweight really) end up being all angular and stick out here and there with their bones. This leads to them (when wearing a dress) taking us to the uncanny valley. The bones say 'male' the dress and makeup say female and the two just clash in a horrific way in the minds of the majority, triggering their revulsion tendency.

So physically you have what you have to work with. If you are going to transition, you need to start where you are NOW with a doctor. Don't go mucking up what you have going on trying to become a woman on your own.

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[Adam]

When you go on a diet, the body burns fat. In order to lose muscle weight, you pretty much have to eat little to nothing, so that the body depletes it's stores of fat, goes into survival mode and burns muscle. This can create major health problems. Plus, if you lose 40lbs you'll look anorexic, not feminine. 120 is the lowest ideal weight for a woman 5'7" -

In terms of exercise, ramp up the cardio.

That being said - you need medical help with all of this. A Registered Dietician can help you address the diet issue. But there are things, such as estrogen therapy, that you need to discuss with a doctor. This really isn't a do-it-yourself project.

[Swanny]

120lbs? That is too much, I've seen people at that bmi and they look thick still. I want to be skinny like bill kaulitz and jeffree star. I think I look chunky and muscular at the same time.

[Borg69]

Probably not what you want to hear, but you look perfectly fine AS IS to me. I'd kill to look like you.

I wouldn't change a thing.

[Uneunsae]

I think you need to stop putting pictures up online and figure out if you are a woman or if you just want to look feminine. That picture you posted is not of a woman. Bill Kaulitz is not a woman. He's just a guy with 100 lbs of makeup on and fluffed up hair. A gender therapist can help you with this, but it's really the first step.

[Swanny]

Oh I know they're not woman, but I like their body types.

[Uneunsae]

You say in your original post that you want to go from being a man to being a woman but then also go on to say that you just want a skinny feminine body.

My question is whether you know deep down inside that you're a woman and always have been one or is this just a cosmetic thing?

[Swanny]

I think it is about comestics, but also not being pressured to be a masculine. I feel that in being a feminine man, a lot of people will pressure you to be masculine whereas if you are transgender you will not be as pressured to conform because people will figure you are a woman.

[Uneunsae]

I am intersex and identify as third gender. My presentation is extremely feminine. Yes, people will pressure you, but you need to not listen to them. Transitioning is very serious and not for cosmetic reasons. Do you realize that you will grow breasts if you undergo hormone therapy?

You need to do what you want and not listen to others. This is the crux of your situation, not your gender.