Any advice on Threesomes???

[MikeW]

Will: Whoa...wait...I thought this was about sex and now you're turning it into an algebra lesson lol - And well, the trouble with the mirth was that I was the only one finding it mirthful. The guys morphed into porn star wanna-bes and it was freaking hilarious. Funny thing...I never got invited back lol -

AHhhh! I would have found that funny, too.

[Virge]

Maximus........ Here's the OP you made 2 hours before this introducing yourself.

MaximusG
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Hi everybody.

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Would you help me get it?
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Thanks very much.
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I don't mind saying but if we polled 1,000,000 gay men about the tops 20 best things in life threeways wouldn't make it on the list.

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That is a potential but in my experience not a given.

^ ^ ditto .

[BobInTampa]

3somes work well under a few very specific circumstances (in my 25 years of experience)

1) If the 3 of you are all single buds who've decided it would be fun. The upside? You know the guys and have an existing friendship that will make the "get acquainted" akwardness nothing to worry about. The downside, it could ruin your friendship with 1 or both of the other guys.

2) A couple has asked you to join them! The upside here, is that there's likely no "drama" in their LTR and they both find you an ideal 3rd to play with. The downside: One of the couple really isn't into you or the idea of a 3some and is only going along due to the prodding of his partner.

3) Total spontaneous sex: 3 unknown guys get wild. Upside, it's NSA sex and you're probably never going to see them again so just enjoy. The downside, you don't know them or their background so you never know if there are some surprises looming.

I'm assuming that the guys who asked you to join them, KNOW you and if you're a top, bottom or versitle. I"m also assuming that either you and or all 3 of you have tossed the idea around before. If not, it's CRITICAL that you ask them the "rules of engagement": Those rules could include things like: no kissing, no anal, etc.

Bottom line? (pun intended): if they ARE friends of yours, just know that there's always a chance that you joining another couple in the bedroom could ruin your friendship with 1 or both guys. Be sure that BOTH GUYS are 1000% into this and that if it means risking a friendship over something going wrong during sex, it's better to NOT do it.

[MaximusG]

in my 25 years of experience.

Wow! You must hold a PhD in Threesomes by now.

Joking aside, thanks to all of you for your attention and replies.

[AdamAndWill]

3somes work well under a few very specific circumstances (in my 25 years of experience)

1) If the 3 of you are all single buds who've decided it would be fun. The upside? You know the guys and have an existing friendship that will make the "get acquainted" akwardness nothing to worry about. The downside, it could ruin your friendship with 1 or both of the other guys.

2) A couple has asked you to join them! The upside here, is that there's likely no "drama" in their LTR and they both find you an ideal 3rd to play with. The downside: One of the couple really isn't into you or the idea of a 3some and is only going along due to the prodding of his partner.

3) Total spontaneous sex: 3 unknown guys get wild. Upside, it's NSA sex and you're probably never going to see them again so just enjoy. The downside, you don't know them or their background so you never know if there are some surprises looming.

I'm assuming that the guys who asked you to join them, KNOW you and if you're a top, bottom or versitle. I"m also assuming that either you and or all 3 of you have tossed the idea around before. If not, it's CRITICAL that you ask them the "rules of engagement": Those rules could include things like: no kissing, no anal, etc.

Bottom line? (pun intended): if they ARE friends of yours, just know that there's always a chance that you joining another couple in the bedroom could ruin your friendship with 1 or both guys. Be sure that BOTH GUYS are 1000% into this and that if it means risking a friendship over something going wrong during sex, it's better to NOT do it.

Adam: What???? I have to memorize all these rules????

Screw it, just give me the popcorn and I'll be fine...

[Iceblink]

I've experienced threesomes both with couples and with two other people not in a relationship. I've had fun and enjoyed both, but preferred it when the other two were not a couple. I found there was less structure and it was more spontaneous. Couples in these situations have often discussed beforehand or already worked out in their experience with each other beforehand, what roles and situations will take place. In these scenarios it usually seems to be you and them as opposed to you and him and him.

On the other side of this, I have never been in a relationship where we found a third person for sex.

[MelBruks]

I've experienced threesomes both with couples and with two other people not in a relationship. I've had fun and enjoyed both, but preferred it when the other two were not a couple. I found there was less structure and it was more spontaneous. Couples in these situations have often discussed beforehand or already worked out in their experience with each other beforehand, what roles and situations will take place. In these scenarios it usually seems to be you and them as opposed to you and him and him.

On the other side of this, I have never been in a relationship where we found a third person for sex.

Well I am a lesbian in a relationship. I have many gay friends who have taken part in threesomes and sauna parties, and have to agree with the guy above.

Moreover, I can say that it is the same thing among lesbians.

[Anocxu]

Do what I do...
Start crying and you''ll get all the attention..!

[MikeW]

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