relationships & fetishes

[AdamAndWill]

I understand your concern about "limiting your options" and what it boils down to is..... is your fetish a need? Is it something you -have to- have in a relationship?

If so... then your options are already limited.

That said? When Gideon and I met and started seeing each other, I didn't have a -clue- about D/s... or the appeal of the "take down". These are things that Gideon introduced into our relationship from the start in subtle ways that grew into where we are today.

There's no reason you can't do the same with your fetishes.

(Adam) This is exactly how it worked with Will and me. He suggested and introduced things slowly, always being aware of my comfort level. And he made it clear that his bottom line was our relationship - that none of these things was more important than us. As a result, I felt free to experiment, to accept or reject. Looking back, I believe I was a lot more comfortable and accepting than I would have been if he'd presented his desires as demands.