Virginity; A sacred thing? or a shameful thing?

[jasonkirk]

For all of you who think that I am a love making expert... Here's a shocker!! I am a virgin! (BY CHOICE) and I plan on staying this way until I find the man of my dreams or just someone with whom I can feel comfortable and when it is time.. then it is time.

Much of a fairytale or an illusion that some of you might think that i have in my head, but it is what I believe in and I stand by it. And it isn't because I can't get laid, I can if I wanted to. But how many people lost their virginity or in other words (Wasted it) on some unworthy people? why should it be a night stand with some stranger in my bed? Why shouldn't it be something more valuable, more profound, something in which you can never forget and just never regret it. I don't want it to be a one night fun. I want it to be more than just that, to feel a connection, a bond to my lover. Especially when it is with someone you love, I believe it would be 10x better than just a hook up..

Wouldn't you agree? Should virginity be that much sacred? Thoughts?...

i tottaly agree with youDD

[jasonkirk]

I think that your expectations, your desire to hold off and make that first time special is admirable and I hope when you find the right guy that first time for you is -amazing-. And I hope too that whoever it is that you end up with, accepts what he's getting with all the respect that your virginity(and you) deserve.

My first...the wrong guy, the wrong reasons...but everything in our lives, both the good and the bad make us into the people that we are, so I guess I don't regret it as much as wish I'd had the foresight to make better decisions in that moment.

good luck i hope you find what you looking for

[jasonkirk]

I think It's not really important

love is whats important i agree with you

[Rob]

I'm a virgin too, even though I would have loved to give my virginity away much earlier. I don't want my first man to be the man of my life, I think that is almost impossible, but I agree that man should be gentle and somehow caring. Experiencing sex for the first time is a sensitive issue and frankly I'd hate it if my first sex was with an asshole or some kind of jerk.

[verysimple]

Hi Verysimple,

First of all, let me commend you for your resolve. It is not easy to keep one's virginity in this day and age, moreso for gay guys like ourselves. As you said, you can get laid anytime if you wanted to, but you CHOOSE not to for your own reasons. That is admirable, and I wish you luck in finding the "one."

Having said that, I don't think that virginity is necessarily a "sacred" thing. On the contrary, I would think that having reasonably good experiences in terms of sex would be a premium for you. Knowing how to please your partner is essential in keeping a healthy relationship. For single guys, it should be more than enough to get you around. Wink wink.

For guys in general, virginity is something to be "ashamed" of because it reflects ignorance and inexperience. In some cultures, having sex is considered as a right of passage and is a requirement for adolescent boys.

I do think it should be something to be ashamed of or something to brag about. It is what it is. Each person should have his own say about what he wants to do with his body, and everybody else should just respect that. It shouldn't be an issue at all.

Hope this helps.

Discreet Serpent

I respect what you say about virginity; again, to each his own opinion and beliefs!! and yet again, it isn't as if i am going to be waiting my whole life for mr prince charming... If he didn't come around.. well then too bad for him, i will do it with someone i trust and comfortable with... idk, maybe around my twenties, i don't really care about sex all that much anyways, there are more vital things that can keep the relationship alive than just sex... why do you think couples over 80 yrs old still work just fine?

my regards mr serpent

[discreetserpent]

I respect what you say about virginity; again, to each his own opinion and beliefs!! and yet again, it isn't as if i am going to be waiting my whole life for mr prince charming... If he didn't come around.. well then too bad for him, i will do it with someone i trust and comfortable with... idk, maybe around my twenties, i don't really care about sex all that much anyways, there are more vital things that can keep the relationship alive than just sex... why do you think couples over 80 yrs old still work just fine?

my regards mr serpent

it will happen when it happens. and i hope it turns out really special for you