I don't have enough gay friends...

[Borg69]

I could be just a little bitchy so if this response seems a bit too "BORG"-cold, stop reading now...
***Disclaimer my 'rant' below may or may not apply to the OP***

I see a lot of these types of plea's for friends, and I find them really hard to believe. Often times, more so than not there are a TON of people whom do reach out and want to chat, hang out, ... be FRIENDS, and often times they're rejected because they don't fit into some "I don't want to DATE you" type category of not being pretty enough. Date? Wait... whuuut? I thought you were looking for FRIENDS?!?!?

Granted, the gay population can be extremely shallow, selfish, self serving, and clique-ish in it's high school girl mentality at times, but there are genuine people out there whom are legitimately looking for FRIENDS whom are rejected time and again because the friend seeker doesn't want to get in their pants.

Don't burn your bridges. Every new friend is a possible connection to their friends, relatives, co-workers, ... And if you WANT a friend, you have to BE a friend. Make effort. Reach out. Talk. Ask questions. LISTEN. Pay attention. Be open minded.

[Virge]

[SIZE="7"][COLOR="Red"]Thanks Mike!
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One of the things that makes me the proudest is when my dad said his first cuss word about me. He introduced me to a colleague of his as the most resourceful mother fucker on earth. It's all his fault. He taught me I could do anything I set my mind to doing. Now I just have to get them all done before I die so I can find some time to have fun.

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Excuse me I have to run and carp me some diems!

[Virge]

[SIZE="7"][COLOR="Red"]I'm glad you brought
that up Borg! [/COLOR][/SIZE]

You put a different angle on it that REALLY needs to be talked about more often. I don't know that I've read anyone here even mentioning it before.

GOOD GOOD friends are hard to find anyway for anyone.

(from my personal experience.......duhhh)

when someone 'puts moves' on you that means they already like you. Why reject them?
Flip it around and make a friend out of them.
Even double down on the effort to make a friend out of them!!!
and before you know it you'll have.....
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Try it. It really works!!!!

[COLOR="Blue"][SIZE="6"]and let's all remember
to start giving that advice
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[wayward]

Borg, some homosexuals are okay with having platonic friends, you know. It is just a matter of being able to connect. I don't have a lot of social experience because my parents are isolated hermits and didn't role model for me. I live far away from most family so I didn't get the experiences many do with cousins and the like. I am learning certain world skills remedially but that doesn't mean I have biased intentions, I just have a different starting point.

[AdamAndWill]

I could be just a little bitchy so if this response seems a bit too "BORG"-cold, stop reading now...
***Disclaimer my 'rant' below may or may not apply to the OP***

I see a lot of these types of plea's for friends, and I find them really hard to believe. Often times, more so than not there are a TON of people whom do reach out and want to chat, hang out, ... be FRIENDS, and often times they're rejected because they don't fit into some "I don't want to DATE you" type category of not being pretty enough. Date? Wait... whuuut? I thought you were looking for FRIENDS?!?!?

Granted, the gay population can be extremely shallow, selfish, self serving, and clique-ish in it's high school girl mentality at times, but there are genuine people out there whom are legitimately looking for FRIENDS whom are rejected time and again because the friend seeker doesn't want to get in their pants.

Don't burn your bridges. Every new friend is a possible connection to their friends, relatives, co-workers, ... And if you WANT a friend, you have to BE a friend. Make effort. Reach out. Talk. Ask questions. LISTEN. Pay attention. Be open minded.

Will: Thank you, and might I emphasize the PAY ATTENTION, because no one is going to get what they want if they're totally random -

Even if you're too busy to read our bio, our avatar might give you a clue - "Adam AND Will" - "Couple" - "Monogamous" - damn, even the picture is 2 guys holding hands -- so would you like to explain this PM we got today:

"Can we chat on WhatsApp or kik?
Trade pics, get to know each other and see if it works for us to be in long lasting
and loving relationship..."

Assuming that the guy isn't looking for a threesome...?

[Rob]

Will: Thank you, and might I emphasize the PAY ATTENTION, because no one is going to get what they want if they're totally random -

Even if you're too busy to read our bio, our avatar might give you a clue - "Adam AND Will" - "Couple" - "Monogamous" - damn, even the picture is 2 guys holding hands -- so would you like to explain this PM we got today:

"Can we chat on WhatsApp or kik?
Trade pics, get to know each other and see if it works for us to be in long lasting
and loving relationship..."

Assuming that the guy isn't looking for a threesome...?

Maybe he thought it was a case of dissociative identity disorder

[Lycanthropist]

Will: Thank you, and might I emphasize the PAY ATTENTION, because no one is going to get what they want if they're totally random -

Even if you're too busy to read our bio, our avatar might give you a clue - "Adam AND Will" - "Couple" - "Monogamous" - damn, even the picture is 2 guys holding hands -- so would you like to explain this PM we got today:

"Can we chat on WhatsApp or kik?
Trade pics, get to know each other and see if it works for us to be in long lasting
and loving relationship..."

Assuming that the guy isn't looking for a threesome...?

I got that message also. I chose not to respond, not because it's not an enticing invitation, but I don't use either of those applications. I read some of the senders posts, and that situation is something I really don't want to get tangled up in. I'm sure he's a very nice person, but that type of long distance relationship is not for me. I need someone I can be physical with and not in a bits and bytes type of way.

[Camfer]

This assumes there are out gay people and things to do with them. Depends on where you are. My recommendation is, if those opportunities don't exist or are few and far between, create what you need. This may mean getting a bit out side your comfort zone and thinking outside the box.

Agreed that gay people actually have to exist for you to hang out with them. Gay people are everywhere. Out gay people are not necessarily everywhere.

As for things to do with people, there are myriad of things to do everywhere at all times. Totally agree with that advice to create the situation you need. Anyone who thinks otherwise simply lacks imagination and is probably a dull, boring person. I've never been bored in my entire life. No thrilling social scene has ever been handed to me. I've had an interesting life because I made it an interesting life.

[SHOman93]

Honestly, all of my good friends I met because I usually am kinda outspoken. If I sit next to you during the first class I probably will be having a normal conversation with you be the end of that first class. You have to make it a point to say hi to people. I usually comment about something automotive they are wearing or, for example, if they set down a pair of Ford keys I'll ask "Hey what kind of Ford do those go to?" You can't rely on others starting the conversation.

P.S. One of my closest friends, of about 3 people, is a Lesbian. She is one of the kindest, most genuinely good-hearted person I have ever met. She's stood up for me when no one else would and I've done the same for her. Go out and meet some people! You never know who you will meet!!