I think this site is making me slightly cynical. Maybe cynical's not the right word... maybe I'm just less patient, or worse, less empathetic.
It usually has to do with new time posters. I'm all for new folk to sign up and contribute, I think that's great! The more the merrier. But there seems to be, more so lately than ever before, an influx of new posters who sign up to gather feedback for a specific problem they're having.... and then they split. And I find myself caring less and less when I read these "flash in the pan" posts. I have thoughts like "Oh for fuck's sake, just ask him out already, what's the big deal?" or "Yes... I'm sure you'll find somebody" or "I'm sure your penis is just fine, get over yourself."
Perhaps I feel that way because I find myself becoming less concerned with the small things in my own life, so I feel like others should be at that point too... even though I know that's ridiculous.
I guess this site has really taught me that my own issues are so very painfully unoriginal.... It's amazing to see so many different posters with such similar dilemmas. And I'm not even one of the veterans of this site. I would love to hear from some of the long time members how you find the patience to answer the same questions over and over again.
Thanks for reading.
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You have been here longer than I have, Wade, but I think you have a good point. My theory is that some of these short lived posters are the same person who is trying to punch a few drama buttons. Such a person -- or persons -- gets off on twiddling with the juicy little problems and could care less about really dealing with them.
It is true that many problems are common to us all and one good thing about this and other sites is that we can feel less alone about ti. Of course, one can get a bit cynical but in the long run many do mellow.
I grow tired with the crew you refer to, but there are good guys around, too. They help me though the day.
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I do think most are people just looking for advice, but there are many others that fall into two categories. One, the problem is so mundane and barely a problem at all with an answer so obvious I wonder how they were even able to manage making toast this morning. Then on the other side, the issue is so outlandish and over-the-top that I find it hard to believe it is a genuine post and more likely a person laughing his ass off at the responses and the attention the thread is getting and you often never hear from the person again. It is not just here. It happens on most forum sites. I try to avoid the ones I'm questing as fake, but sometimes I do fall into the fray and comment anyway.
Off topic, but one thing I find funny that new people do on forum sites is to dig up old threads and instead of just making some general comment, instead directly question the OP who has now deleted himself or had the problem a while ago. If someone made a thread two months ago asking what to wear to an interview, he is probably long past the point of still needing that advice.
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The thing that gets me is when strangers take time out of their day to give someone advice and the person doesn't have the courtesy to even go back and respond or thank the people who have attempted to help them....and THEN they come back and ask the same question again!
It would also be nice if the people contribute to other conversations...or try to pay it forward to someone else who has a question....
OK..I am going to edit now and add something that I erased.....I feel like an asshole for saying it because I want them to get help but I am happy that the parade of suicide threads 3-4 years ago that used to populate these pages are now gone.
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So I've been on here for 7 years now and have seen the same questions over and over again.. the way I've dealt with it is by disappearing for a bit and then coming back and repeating this process over and over. Again this isn't for everyone, but it does fit quite well with my life giving me time for work.
I don't really comment on every thread, or I'll go through stages. I do think sometimes its rude for me not to participate in the whole welcome to the site, but lately it seems like thats all I'd spend my time doing! Theres quite a few on here posting now quite regularly I've never even spoken to.
I think I'm going off point anyway. Just redirect people to posts if the questions are identical - or just stand back and let someone else deal with it
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