09-20-2014, 01:35 PM
So I share a house with 3 other people, we are all around the same age, and for the most part they're not bad roommates. There is only 1 area where we clash. My roommates and I have different work schedules, mine is 8 to 5 Monday to Friday schedule with the weekends off so naturally I have to get up early during the week. There's schedule is different, they don't go into work until later in the afternoon.
I think because they have that schedule knowing they never or hardly ever have to get up early, they like to throw parties. This is where the problem lies. They're parties are more frequently during the week when I have to be up early, and they go until the wee hours of the morning. I've had these roommates for a couple months now and that's how long this has been occurring, and I have not said anything because I don't know how to address a conflict like this. I've told this to my friends, and they tell me I need to say something but I just don't know what. I don't want to say anything to my landlord because I'd be a rat, I don't want to say something and come across as a dick, and I don't want to say something that makes it seem like I'm the roommate with no life.
It wouldn't be as bad if they would throw they're parties on the weekends that way I don't have to be up early the next day. I told my friend in real life this is how I feel: I don't have a boyfriend currently, but hypothetically if I did, and I had him over my place to have sex, I would tell him, within reason of course, to not be so loud while having sex. Why would I do this? Because I would respect my roommates and think maybe they don't want to listen to me having Loud sex with a guy. So I told my friend, that's how I would respect them, but why don't they respect me?
My friend said I have to say something or my roommates will never know its a problem. To anybody that reads this, what is the best thing to say to them in this situation? Should I just be short and sweet and say "Look I don't want to come across as a dick, but when you guys throw your parties can you please keep it down some?" Or ask them if its possible they can move there parties to Friday or Saturday nights? Any advice is much appreachated.
I think because they have that schedule knowing they never or hardly ever have to get up early, they like to throw parties. This is where the problem lies. They're parties are more frequently during the week when I have to be up early, and they go until the wee hours of the morning. I've had these roommates for a couple months now and that's how long this has been occurring, and I have not said anything because I don't know how to address a conflict like this. I've told this to my friends, and they tell me I need to say something but I just don't know what. I don't want to say anything to my landlord because I'd be a rat, I don't want to say something and come across as a dick, and I don't want to say something that makes it seem like I'm the roommate with no life.
It wouldn't be as bad if they would throw they're parties on the weekends that way I don't have to be up early the next day. I told my friend in real life this is how I feel: I don't have a boyfriend currently, but hypothetically if I did, and I had him over my place to have sex, I would tell him, within reason of course, to not be so loud while having sex. Why would I do this? Because I would respect my roommates and think maybe they don't want to listen to me having Loud sex with a guy. So I told my friend, that's how I would respect them, but why don't they respect me?
My friend said I have to say something or my roommates will never know its a problem. To anybody that reads this, what is the best thing to say to them in this situation? Should I just be short and sweet and say "Look I don't want to come across as a dick, but when you guys throw your parties can you please keep it down some?" Or ask them if its possible they can move there parties to Friday or Saturday nights? Any advice is much appreachated.