Borg69 Wrote:Wow! I didn't see that coming.
Here's my two cents: You mentioned a failed gay relationship in your past, and after that you seemed to kinda give up on them. Women do seem to have it better. They can dress sexy. Their clothes and shoes and accessories are fun and varied compared to guys clothes. Attractive women have guys flocking to them effortlessly. In a grass is greener standpoint from where you've removed yourself from dating guys and sequestered yourself at the Grand Canyon where no gays can find you, a woman's life would look utopian.
Confession: years ago some friends and I got into doing drag. At first it WAS fun! The clothes, shoes, accessories, recreating ourselves how we thought our inner diva's were. It was exciting to be able to go out and be someone else for a night. Guys hit on me whom normally wouldn't give me the time of day. Hot guys. Straight guys. Lesbians. The sudden attention was overwhelming.
Ultimately, in my case I knew it wasn't real. What they were attracted to was a fantasy. Not the REAL me. I think to a greater extent I was jealous of "her". She was pretty. Flirty. Outgoing. Sexy. Forward. Flashy. Everything *I* am not. Being her was a fun escape, but I couldn't hide out there forever.
I guess my advice is to not hide from life. Get out of the Canyon. Your a very attractive guy with a lot of enviable traits. If you're serious about this, try drag. You might see the grass isn't as green as you thought after walking in their shoes.
All well and fine, Borg, but might I suggest that doing drag is not what being transgender or being female is about?
Everyone knows that drag is fake... and is mostly meant to amuse, exaggerate and wear a mask. I'm not belittling the value of it, but I'm not sure it's the right thing to do to transition to another gender. Well, not to the extent that some drag queens go to, in any case.
It may seem like a good idea, but maybe what Jason needs to do is to start wearing ordinary female clothes, nothing flashy. There will be a certain amount of 'covering up' at first, especially while s-he transitions with hormones, loses some hairiness, and gets a bit more 'padding' and breasts. It doesn't mean s-he can't look pretty and attractive, but s-he won't want to be attracting the wrong kind of a attention, will s-he? As much jewellery and make up as feels comfortable, ok, but nothing that's going to attract the wrong kind of glances and or a wicked eye. It's hard enough knowing inside that one is different.
How soon can we refer to you as a female, Jason?