First Contact ( not Star Trek )

[reaper]

Hello, so I made a previous thread about my recent decision to explore my sexuality which has taken place in a bondage club.

I didn't really know exactly what to expect when I set off down this road. In many ways I'm somewhat conservative and reserved in my approach to life and things in general. But on this new adventure I've been moving forward at a fairly quick pace listening to my gut over my overly cautious mind. It feels great!

I don't feel like I've changed, more like I knocked down some inner walls.

To recap, I've been playing with the same guy at this club and decided to see if he would be interested in playing in a more vanilla way. All of this is new to me and I have never hooked up with a guy....

So I had my opportunity to bring this up. We walked to a local store...on the way back I put it out their. I told him my thoughts on us playing in a more sexual way. He didn't really give a yes or no answer, but I didn't really expect one. It was more like I was putting it out their and asking him to give it some thought.

I think it went pretty well. When we got back we talked for a minute and I asked him if he was ready to go inside. He stood right in front of me and said he was. We kissed for a bit then went inside. He said...that was a good start.

We sat together outside for a bit later that night before I had to leave. We kissed a little more and I left.

Pretty good night!

[ShiftyNJ]

Nice. Was his other/regular playmate around?

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Just be careful you don't get emotionally attached.

[reaper]

ShiftyNj...meant to quote.


He was, and I asked about this. I said if this would cause any negative blowback on him it wouldn't be worth it.

He said it wouldn't be an issue, it wouldn't be like I was cutting into his turf.

[MikeW]

Great to hear, reaper!

[reaper]

Just be careful you don't get emotionally attached.

Yeah, I need to be mindful of this. I do like the guy, but I know the deal and I'm good with it. I didn't ask for his number and unless we do something as a group I won't ask him to hang out outside the club. At least for now. I need to see how things unfold. If it's not casual it won't work out. This much I know.

[palbert]

Sounds like a positive experience, and glad you could share.

[ShiftyNJ]

I know you gave him a handy before but was this your first time making out with a dude? What did you think?

[reaper]

I know you gave him a handy before but was this your first time making out with a dude? What did you think?

It was another first, and I thought it was awesome. I'm not a huge fan of putting myself out their (I see the irony based on what I've been up to) but I did. So when he stood their I saw it as a step in the right direction....it was hot.

It also felt very natural to me.

[East]

I think it is cool to open a door and see where it leads....

Glad you did it...hope you have a great ride ahead..