I have an acquaintance who is NOT like this but dates someone who is. I have sorta distanced myself from them because he's hard to be around, and recently unfollowed him on Facebook because I find the constant half-naked selfies kind of creepy given that he's in a relationship my friend.
When I arrived to Canada at 15 years old I was immediately labelled the "Ultimate Twink" I have attached a picture of me in a boat when I was 16 years old. That was the first time in my life I heard of that term. I had no idea what a twink was because in my hometown, Rockhampton, AU, I was called a "surferboy" which suit me much better because surf was and still is my favorite activity.
I learned what a twink was when I first started to date Jake who explained to me what was a twink. I did not like it. Because afterward I understood that "twink" was mostly used in porn to define guys who looks like me, natural blond, skinny to fit with baby face and the reputation that twink have did not please me at all. Might as well call me slutty which I am not. I love sex like the next guy and yes I'm a power bottom but the fact that I look good to the eyes of others doesn't mean I'll drop my pants and let anyone have their way with me.
While I can understand that I was labelled a twink by the gay community, this was for me a major insult, because I'm not shallow, I'm not full of myself, heck I'm a shy guy and for many years I had extremely low self-esteem and far from me to go around ditching other since I couldn't find anything wrong about the other guys but I'd find everything wrong about myself. Jake was the guy who helped me gain more confidence.
Yes, I was continually being told that I was pretty, in a dating site my mailbox would overflow in minutes as soon as I post a picture of myself of messages that scared me much more than making me horny. All kinds of guys were sending me messages and it all revolved about fucking the shit out of me, but none, and I mean NONE ever stop to think that it wasn't what I was looking for. Some guys would start nice, and at some point I thought "oh yeah finally a good one" and after few messages I was turned again into that twinkish cum Dumpster.
For me twink is associated with porn and perversion and yes, I also associate it with pedophiles because nowadays a 15 years old boy is also called a twink. I hate the term. I know Jake said I'm a twink in this thread, but yeah, that was for the thread because he never calls me a twink, he calls me Alex, which is who I am.
And honestly, I feel like crying with rage when I'm associated to a twink. I'm okay with someone finding me cute and all, but labelling me a twink make my blood boils. I'm no twink, no cubs, no pup, I'm none of those appellations Jakey listed, I'm Alexander, I'm 28, I'm gay, I love penises and guys of all ages. I'm married to a wonderful guy and I love him and my ass isn't on the twink's market and never was and never will be.
It really is kind of gross that we (and by "we" I don't mean the guys on here, but guys in general) can't appreciate someone who is young and attractive (and maybe even naive) without exploiting them.
I'm the first to admit I will look at an attractive guy and -- for me -- that is usually someone younger than me. But I'm so averse to the idea of being seen as a creeper that I'd be really unlikely to initiate any kind of contact. Even with younger guys from the local music scene, I kind of leave it to them if/how they want to interact, because I'm repulsed by the idea of being seen as predatory.
ShiftyNJ Wrote:It really is kind of gross that we (and by "we" I don't mean the guys on here, but guys in general) can't appreciate someone who is young and attractive (and maybe even naive) without exploiting them.
I'm the first to admit I will look at an attractive guy and -- for me -- that is usually someone younger than me. But I'm so averse to the idea of being seen as a creeper that I'd be really unlikely to initiate any kind of contact. Even with younger guys from the local music scene, I kind of leave it to them if/how they want to interact, because I'm repulsed by the idea of being seen as predatory.
hehehe you know what I did once and it kind of worked, in one of the sites I was featured in I took a video of myself having a dump and I did another one where I was throwing up my guts after a night of drinking and I posted them - now I know some guys would be excited about it, but my goal was to show that I'm not much different than anybody else. I get sick, I need to shit like everyone else. I made sure that the video was really disgusting to remove that cutie image some hold of me and yes it dropped the messages flow considerably. I felt better that day. LOL
In all those twink based website we always see them with clean asses and stuff, I wanted that image to be wiped about myself and I posted videos of me doing natural human things. It worked. Some comments came as - yeah you're cute but ewwww dude LOL.
Alex Wrote:When I arrived to Canada at 15 years old I was immediately labelled the "Ultimate Twink" I have attached a picture of me in a boat when I was 16 years old. That was the first time in my life I heard of that term. I had no idea what a twink was because in my hometown, Rockhampton, AU, I was called a "surferboy" which suit me much better because surf was and still is my favorite activity.
I learned what a twink was when I first started to date Jake who explained to me what was a twink. I did not like it. Because afterward I understood that "twink" was mostly used in porn to define guys who looks like me, natural blond, skinny to fit with baby face and the reputation that twink have did not please me at all. Might as well call me slutty which I am not. I love sex like the next guy and yes I'm a power bottom but the fact that I look good to the eyes of others doesn't mean I'll drop my pants and let anyone have their way with me.
While I can understand that I was labelled a twink by the gay community, this was for me a major insult, because I'm not shallow, I'm not full of myself, heck I'm a shy guy and for many years I had extremely low self-esteem and far from me to go around ditching other since I couldn't find anything wrong about the other guys but I'd find everything wrong about myself. Jake was the guy who helped me gain more confidence.
Yes, I was continually being told that I was pretty, in a dating site my mailbox would overflow in minutes as soon as I post a picture of myself of messages that scared me much more than making me horny. All kinds of guys were sending me messages and it all revolved about fucking the shit out of me, but none, and I mean NONE ever stop to think that it wasn't what I was looking for. Some guys would start nice, and at some point I thought "oh yeah finally a good one" and after few messages I was turned again into that twinkish cum Dumpster.
For me twink is associated with porn and perversion and yes, I also associate it with pedophiles because nowadays a 15 years old boy is also called a twink. I hate the term. I know Jake said I'm a twink in this thread, but yeah, that was for the thread because he never calls me a twink, he calls me Alex, which is who I am.
And honestly, I feel like crying with rage when I'm associated to a twink. I'm okay with someone finding me cute and all, but labelling me a twink make my blood boils. I'm no twink, no cubs, no pup, I'm none of those appellations Jakey listed, I'm Alexander, I'm 28, I'm gay, I love penises and guys of all ages. I'm married to a wonderful guy and I love him and my ass isn't on the twink's market and never was and never will be.
Looking at your picture reminds me of this guy who I knew when I was in my 20s. I met him when I was 21 and he was 21 and before I was bartending I was a waiter in the bar.
He was in there one night and it looked like a pack of wolves were after him...it was scary. They looked like they were possessed chasing him around. I was scared for him as I watched him trying to get away from the pack and they wouldn't leave him alone. I knew one of them was going to attack him or rape him (he had a little too much to drink) so I locked him in one of the liquor rooms 'til the bar closed so nothing bad happened to him and when the pack of wolves left I called him a taxi. When I walked him outside and put him in the cab those guys were STILL outside waiting for him. I then ran interference for a few minutes 'til the cab was out of sight so no one would follow him.....YIKES.
He looked ALOT like you but I never saw him as a twink I guess because he wasn't an asshole. The only time I ever thought a young guy was a twink it had nothing to do with their age or appearance...it was about their attitude.
East Wrote:Looking at your picture reminds me of this guy who I knew when I was in my 20s. I met him when I was 21 and he was 21 and before I was bartending I was a waiter in the bar.
He was in there one night and it looked like a pack of wolves were after him...it was scary. They looked like they were possessed chasing him around. I was scared for him. I knew one of them was going to attack him or rape him (he had a little too much to drink) so I locked him in one of the liquor rooms 'til the bar closed so nothing bad happened to him and when the pack of wolves left I called him a taxi. When I walked him outside and put him in the cab those guys were STILL outside waiting for him. I then ran interference for a few minutes 'til the cab was out of sight so no one would follow him.....YIKES.
He looked ALOT like you but I never saw him as a twink I guess because he wasn't an asshole. The only time I ever thought a young guy was a twink it had nothing to do with their age or appearance...it was about their attitude.
East trust me you did good that day, I was in a similar situation before I met Jake and that was the scariest night of my life, I was 18, a year before I met my husband and a bunch of friends and I decided to go out and have fun. Well this wasn't a fun night for me, I was verbally abused, guys would always grab my ass, I was paid so many drinks by too many guys. I started feeling like I was a target and yes I was a target. I spoke to one of my friends about my concern and he laugh, but he stopped laughing when we got out of the bar and three guys were waiting for us at the exit. I don't recall doing anything to excite them, I was just there with my friends talking, having a drink and socializing, but I was checked and checked and I didn't realize it. If it wasn't for the bouncer that night who was watching us over, YES i would have been either sleeping in the back alley after being savagely raped or dead. After that night I refused to go out to any bars or clubs because I feared for my security or my life. In another situation where I was with Jake and we went to a bar it end up in a fight with Jake beating the shit of another guy because he tried to have his way with me when I went for a piss in the bathroom. For fuck sake WHY? I just don't understand. Am I not a human being? I have feeling and yes, when you fuck me without lube it hurts OKAY! And what the fuck is wrong with people? How can you get excited when the person cries to dead, you hurt him, how the fuck can one get excited by that?
If I moan a little incorrectly during sex with Jake he'll immediately stop and ask me if I'm okay. I just don't get people.
Alex Wrote:East trust me you did good that day, I was in a similar situation before I met Jake and that was the scariest night of my life, I was 18, a year before I met my husband and a bunch of friends and I decided to go out and have fun. Well this wasn't a fun night for me, I was verbally abused, guys would always grab my ass, I was paid so many drinks by too many guys. I started feeling like I was a target and yes I was a target. I spoke to one of my friends about my concern and he laugh, but he stopped laughing when we got out of the bar and three guys were waiting for us at the exit. I don't recall doing anything to excite them, I was just there with my friends talking, having a drink and socializing, but I was checked and checked and I didn't realize it. If it wasn't for the bouncer that night who was watching us over, YES i would have been either sleeping in the back alley after being savagely raped or dead. After that night I refused to go out to any bars or clubs because I feared for my security or my life. In another situation where I was with Jake and we went to a bar it end up in a fight with Jake beating the shit of another guy because he tried to have his way with me when I went for a piss in the bathroom. For fuck sake WHY? I just don't understand. Am I not a human being? I have feeling and yes, when you fuck me without lube it hurts OKAY! And what the fuck is wrong with people? How can you get excited when the person cries to dead, you hurt him, how the fuck can one get excited by that?
If I moan a little incorrectly during sex with Jake he'll immediately stop and ask me if I'm okay. I just don't get people.
Alex I am sorry that you had to deal with that. I saw it happen ..what you describe...so many times...and seeing your picture I have no doubt the crap you must have had to deal with. I am glad the doorman was watching out for you.
Alex Wrote:hehehe you know what I did once and it kind of worked, in one of the sites I was featured in I took a video of myself having a dump and I did another one where I was throwing up my guts after a night of drinking and I posted them - now I know some guys would be excited about it, but my goal was to show that I'm not much different than anybody else. I get sick, I need to shit like everyone else. I made sure that the video was really disgusting to remove that cutie image some hold of me and yes it dropped the messages flow considerably. I felt better that day. LOL
In all those twink based website we always see them with clean asses and stuff, I wanted that image to be wiped about myself and I posted videos of me doing natural human things. It worked. Some comments came as - yeah you're cute but ewwww dude LOL.
I'd be afraid of who would contact me because they LIKED it.
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I find being called a Daddy insulting as I find an older guy referring to a young man a twink! I personally find that there is more stereotyping among gay men, then straight people are towards gay men! although I must admit when I was younger I never heard acquaintances, friends, or older gay men ever referred to me as a twink!
LEANDRONJ Wrote:I find being called a Daddy insulting as I find an older guy referring to a young man a twink! I personally find that there is more stereotyping among gay men, then straight people are towards gay men! although I must admit when I was younger I never heard acquaintances, friends, or older gay men ever referred to me as a twink!
It's funny; people say that to be flattering but I don't really hear it that way either. It suggests incest play to me, which ... just no. I realize that is not always or even normally the context, but that's what it conjures up for me.
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I am sorry that you had to deal with that. I saw it happen ..what you describe...so many times...and seeing your picture I have no doubt the crap you must have had to deal with. I am glad the doorman was watching out for you.
