Hello,
I wanted to share something with the forum: the first thing that ever made me realize I was curious about guys, but I wasn't sure where to. It didn't seem to be a fit for "introduce yourself" or "chit chat." (Chit Chat seems to be a "G-rated" board.) So before I go any further, can someone advise me if this is the right place?
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The forum police seem to be quite lenient around here. Tell away.
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Thanks for the answer AND the welcome!
Before I write it, I guess I should also ask how graphic I can get here. LOL
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Try not to get too pornographic...but say what you like. If it crosses a line someone will let you know.
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I totally agree with Virge… and its true, gay men can get totally bent out of shape about this subject. Many think that any guy who has sex with another man *must* (by fact of the sex act) be gay but in denial. Some will admit to the "possibility" of bisexuality but, not being bi themselves, can't actually imagine it. But, again, these labels S, B, G are two-dimensional.
What it really boils down to, I think, is that sexual activity is pleasurable (period). We are creatures who like to pleasure ourselves and one another. And why not?
Well, the "why not" question is where it gets tricky from societies POV. If what you want is to increase the herd population then sexual activity that isn't hetero may interfere with that.
The real question is, what are you drawn to emotionally; what gender do you prefer to bond with on an emotional level? This is one of the things that drive gay men nuts. They want to bond with other men. Straight men who play around sexually with one another won't "fall in love" with one another. They may form "bro" type bonds, even "love" one another in a sense -- but this is different from wanting to build a family. Gay men want that *with other men*.
All this is confusing because our society has never come to terms with what sexuality actually is, IMO. IOW, it isn't just about propagation -- this should be obvious. It is in *part* about emotional bonding but, most of all, it is about pleasure and achieving the 'high' of orgasmic ecstasy. I believe the latter is what sex is really most about -- and Tantra comes closest to anything that describes this. Put differently, if we really understood our sexuality, we'd see that it is fundamentally "spiritual" (for lack of a better word) in nature. It has to do with that moment where we are thrust (physiologically) beyond our ordinary state of ego consciousness and experience a momentary "death" of the ego and, thus, "union" with something else. That union can be with another person or it can be with a much more PRIMAL energy.
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