01-08-2015, 06:59 AM
Hi it's me again. Well there's another issue with my boyfriend.We went to a friend of mine's house on New Years day and we left after midnight so he asked if he could stay over and I said yes.Now if you remember awhile back I was sceived out because of his smell and I had a talk with him about it the night before Thanksgiving and he said he would take care of it.But he still dresses with his shirt tail hanging out sloppily and on new years I asked him to wear the nice sweater I gave him for Christmas over to my friend's house. Well he didn't and I asked him why and he said he was in a hurry and forgot. So the next day we hung out and that night before he left he asked me when we were gonna get more intimate and I told him that I wanted to get preparations{Condoms} and talked about what we like to do.I stressed the fact that I wanted the first time to be special.He agreed.So that night when he left I said I would see him Sunday for church as usual and he agreed.
So when Sunday came he didn't show up so I called his cell and left a message.When I got home from church there were no messages and I called again and left a messge that I was concerned about what happened.So an hour and a half later my phone rang and his name came up on the caller id.When I picked up to say hello I heard a hang up.So I called back and got voice mail again.Then later on I tried again and I heard a pickup but no voice and when I said hello I heard another hang up.I couldn't understand what the hell was going on.So the next day I called and got voicemail and told him I was worried about him.A little while later he finally called and when I asked him what happened he said he didn't know.I took a while for me to drag it out of him and he said that he was upset because everytime he talks about getting intimate he feels like i'm putting him off.I explained to him that I wanted to make sure we were ready and make preparations.I also asked him if he phoned me the day before and he said "Maybe"I guess that hang up was him losing his nerve.He said when he's upset he can't talk about it.Also the other times he said he loves me but yet he thinks nothing of making me worry a whole day.
I told him if he called me the day before and discussed it with me we could have nipped it in the bud and avoided all that anguish.He promised me he would do that from now on.Also I have to be honest.I'm trying to clean him up before I have sex with him.His grooming isn't the greatest.His house and car are messy and yes I did notice an odor in church 2 or 3 Sundays ago even after our talk.He doesn't get the message.I know that if he cleaned up his act and smelled like aftershave I could probably get aroused.If the situation were in reverse and he told me this I would definitely clean up my act.I might have to get blunt with him again and tell him I'm turned off by his slovenly ways.The reason I hang in there is because he has treated me good and taken me places and I would feel terrible if I broke his heart but he doesn't seem to get the message.I know he takes medication for anxiety and depression so I don't know if that has anything to do with it.
Also since we had that discussion on Monday and he said he would comply I haven't heard from him on Tuesday or today.I wonder if he's mad or ashamed.Maybe i'll call him tomorrow to see how he is. Do you guys see my point.By giving me the silent treatment on Sunday he was acting like a high school kid not a 62 year old man.
So when Sunday came he didn't show up so I called his cell and left a message.When I got home from church there were no messages and I called again and left a messge that I was concerned about what happened.So an hour and a half later my phone rang and his name came up on the caller id.When I picked up to say hello I heard a hang up.So I called back and got voice mail again.Then later on I tried again and I heard a pickup but no voice and when I said hello I heard another hang up.I couldn't understand what the hell was going on.So the next day I called and got voicemail and told him I was worried about him.A little while later he finally called and when I asked him what happened he said he didn't know.I took a while for me to drag it out of him and he said that he was upset because everytime he talks about getting intimate he feels like i'm putting him off.I explained to him that I wanted to make sure we were ready and make preparations.I also asked him if he phoned me the day before and he said "Maybe"I guess that hang up was him losing his nerve.He said when he's upset he can't talk about it.Also the other times he said he loves me but yet he thinks nothing of making me worry a whole day.
I told him if he called me the day before and discussed it with me we could have nipped it in the bud and avoided all that anguish.He promised me he would do that from now on.Also I have to be honest.I'm trying to clean him up before I have sex with him.His grooming isn't the greatest.His house and car are messy and yes I did notice an odor in church 2 or 3 Sundays ago even after our talk.He doesn't get the message.I know that if he cleaned up his act and smelled like aftershave I could probably get aroused.If the situation were in reverse and he told me this I would definitely clean up my act.I might have to get blunt with him again and tell him I'm turned off by his slovenly ways.The reason I hang in there is because he has treated me good and taken me places and I would feel terrible if I broke his heart but he doesn't seem to get the message.I know he takes medication for anxiety and depression so I don't know if that has anything to do with it.
Also since we had that discussion on Monday and he said he would comply I haven't heard from him on Tuesday or today.I wonder if he's mad or ashamed.Maybe i'll call him tomorrow to see how he is. Do you guys see my point.By giving me the silent treatment on Sunday he was acting like a high school kid not a 62 year old man.