Advice Plz...

[Cuddly]

Oh wow. I tried to read the messages, but they were too awkward and creepy, so I skipped the majority.
A good message by Carl. Very clear, without being mean, as you'd expect after what he has read, to be fair.

[MikeW]

Ok...I just thought I would share with you guys the last series of late night messages that this guy sent me...

And my husband, Carl's EPIC (imo) response:

Mr Hickson,
This is Beau's husband...

You both need to stop interacting with this troll. He's baiting you and you're responding, 'hooked' on his bait. You don't owe him anything, let alone polite explanation. The dude is either flat out trolling you or is living in a delusional world. In either case, you need not have anything more to do with him.

[Lexington]

Got a vague sense of deja vu from this. Long story short, a guy who at first just wanted to be "online friends", and with perhaps some "NSA sex", started bandying about words like "lovemaking" and "soul partners". That sort of put the kibosh on that.

So yeah, keep the block on, and hopefully you won't hear from him again.

Lex

[East]

Beaux...where did this guy come from? A message board? Facebook?

[LJay]

Yeah, Beaux, it sounds like blocking him makes sense. His language sounds less than healthy and you just don't need his problems on top of yours.

Virge and Beaux, I am sure it seemed OK at the time, but why give these guys your phone number? It seems so reflexive to share information these days that we can sometimes forget that a bit of militance is a good thing.I have one internet friend who is a very nice girl but I know that I need to keep some space around it all, so I only write through a special interest message board system. I can sense clingy and, as much as I appreciate the friendship, I do not need clingy.

If someone can tell me how to cultivate lasting, healthy friendships with a few people, I am just as hopeful as Beaux that it can happen. God, I hate loneliness!

[Beaux]

Beaux...where did this guy come from? A message board? Facebook?

He was listed as being friends with two people I used to know when I lived in TX. Since then, however, I messeged both of them and discovered that they didn't actually KNOW him and had only friended him because he sent a request and when they looked he was listed as being friends with someone they knew....
~Beaux

[Beaux]

Yeah, Beaux, it sounds like blocking him makes sense. His language sounds less than healthy and you just don't need his problems on top of yours.

Virge and Beaux, I am sure it seemed OK at the time, but why give these guys your phone number? It seems so reflexive to share information these days that we can sometimes forget that a bit of militance is a good thing.I have one internet friend who is a very nice girl but I know that I need to keep some space around it all, so I only write through a special interest message board system. I can sense clingy and, as much as I appreciate the friendship, I do not need clingy.

If someone can tell me how to cultivate lasting, healthy friendships with a few people, I am just as hopeful as Beaux that it can happen. God, I hate loneliness!

I NEVER provided him with my phone number. My husband and I both have cell phones that we use for our primary phones, but our cable TV provider had a package deal that inclueded a land line phone and we took it. Neither of us even know that phone's number, because we simply NEVER use it, which was why it was so disturbing to suddenly be getting calls on it. After all this occured, we realized that we should have gotten that phone number to be unlisted but we literally NEVER use that phone so it had never occured before to do so.
~Beaux

[East]

He was listed as being friends with two people I used to know when I lived in TX. Since then, however, I messeged both of them and discovered that they didn't actually KNOW him and had only friended him because he sent a request and when they looked he was listed as being friends with someone they knew....
~Beaux

Oh god...I am so fucking angry at the m*therfucker on your behalf......I cannot tell you how much I despise that kind of crap. The fact that he found your number and you didn't even know the number yourself (which I completely understand...I don't even know my own phone number)...what a creep.

I hope this ends it Beaux

[LJay]

Oy veh! The phone thing is an interesting twist. I have a separately billed cell phone, but I do use it a little bit like you use your land line. For me it is my personal contact line and is almost never used. That is why I can enjoy a cheapo pay as you go setup.

Glad you got this stalker set straight. It is sad that he has such problems, but they are definitely his.

As for your health Beau/Beaux, I empathize completely with it being so complicated. Hang in there and try your best to enjoy keeping the doctors sorted.

Don't want to sound creepy at all, but I propose we lonely guys hang out on GaySpeak. Lots of cool dudes here and we even have a resident jokester who lives in someplace like London.

[Darius]

There are so many weird people on the internet, it's hard to know if he just got obsessed with you because you were kind to him and took time to talk to him and he is alone and lonely OR if he is a stalker just wanting to freak you out. Do you have any kind of sense about him?