Masturbation problems

[himself]

So far, I've generally been fantasising. I haven't viewed porn. I am really inexperienced when it comes to anything about sex.

When I am thinking about stuff, I usually just do what feels right. A lot of the time, I play about with myself (kind of like masturbation foreplay) because that's what I feel like doing. I try going all the way, but to no avail. Maybe it's because, when I'm awake, it's just me and my thoughts. In dreams, the thoughts/fantasies (I'm not sure what I dream about - I can't remember) are bound to feel a lot more real. One thing I do remember is that, at least in some dreams, it feels like there is external pressure on my bits-whose-names-I-daren't-pronounce-for-fear-of-going-to-hell. Maybe that's what's missing when I'm awake.

On the topic of Jewish doctors, I live in Ireland - I think we scared most of the Jews away.

[verysimple]

I know this is kind of weird, so I don't expect people to have much to say on the matter. I play with myself, but it's difficult to get real pleasure. I might get a few damp spots on my boxers, but that's it. However, occasionally, I'll wake up at the climax of a wet dream, finding myself masturbating - my first thought is "crap" because there's a huge mess coming, but it is extremely pleasurable. I have never had an experience like it when I'm fully awake. This would probably be understandable if I were 11 years old, but I'm actually 21. It seems that I haven't sexually matured yet (nor have I mentally matured, but that's neither here nor there). I'm not sure exactly what I'm asking. Maybe I'll start with this: does my story resonate with any of you?

Perhaps you're not relaxing enough.. seems like your tense, or too much is on ur mind...

[Darius]

Here's what you do: sit naked in front of your computer, put on some hot porn, your cock will get hard. Then find a solo scene where a hot guy is jacking off. Do what he does. You'll cum just like your wet dreams.

It's not rocket science, dude. Stop diddling yourself and choke that chicken.

[Borg69]

One thing I do remember is that, at least in some dreams, it feels like there is external pressure on my bits-whose-names-I-daren't-pronounce-for-fear-of-going-to-hell. Maybe that's what's missing when I'm awake.

THIS is your problem. ^^^^^^

[Lexington]

One thing I do remember is that, at least in some dreams, it feels like there is external pressure on my bits-whose-names-I-daren't-pronounce-for-fear-of-going-to-hell. Maybe that's what's missing when I'm awake.

I think the real problem is that you're calling them the "bits-whose-names-I-daren't-pronounce-for-fear-of-going-to-hell". If you can't bring yourself to call them anything but that on a gay messageboard, I think the real issue is some sort of repression.

Lex

[meridannight]

IOne thing I do remember is that, at least in some dreams, it feels like there is external pressure on my bits-whose-names-I-daren't-pronounce-for-fear-of-going-to-hell. Maybe that's what's missing when I'm awake.

here, i'll spell them for you: PENIS. COCK. DICK. tool. there's also BALLS. ASS. ASSHOLE. ANAL SEX. FUCKING. BLOWJOB. giving head, and going down.

aren't you afraid of going to hell for being on this site? the bible clearly says that if you ever come on gayspeak.com you'll go to hell.

starting to sound like a troll.

[Cuddly]

A 21-year-old who doesn't know how to masturbate? Yeah........... I'm not really buying it.

In case you're sincere, good advice has been given.

[Satinesque]

(I'll assume that who you say you are is true and that what you say you're experiencing is the truth, also.)

You've become a spectator of your masturbation during waking hours, instead of being the participant of your erotic feelings, such as those your body is feeling during your sleeping times.

In a way, you're living in your day time penis, but still finding the owning of one pleasurable during only your sleep times.

That means that your self-consciousness is in your way.

You need cognitive therapy (and, not even much of it, at that) to help you tear away the barriers during your wakeful times.

[himself]

I'm sorry. I wasn't sure if I was being too whiny. I try to stay grounded by making fun of myself - hence the euphemism. I didn't think people would take that line seriously. Maybe i should start using lols. Also, I am kind of out of touch - I wasn't sure if I should say penis or dick. I only want to be friendly, but maybe my idea of friendliness is a bit distorted. I am not a troll, but maybe this does sound far fetched. It is true, though. I never fully appreciated how unusual this is.

[himself]

Thanks, everyone. I hope I didn't seem dismissive or ungrateful. I suppose that's what the "thanks" button is for but I'm on my mobile and this browser I'm using is a bit fidgety.