Question on sex etiquette - M15+

[Australia]

Hey people. This is a pretty personal question but w/e i figure thats what this forum is for. Ok so I dont really know a lot about being gay to be honest. All my friends are straight. I pretty much just go out and pick up every now and agian. Anyway I've never really had a bad experience before, until this occasion. Basically I went home with some guy who seemed like a dick but was good looking. We had sex (which was pretty ordinary btw) and he climaxed (REALLY QUICKLY), then kissed me and rolled over and went to sleep. I clearly hadnt finished the race. I didnt know what to do, was I meant to just finish myself off while he was snoring next to me? Instead I just went to sleep too. Next morning when I was leaving he gave me his number, which is evidence that he didnt see anything wrong with his performance. I threw it out first bin I passed.

What I want to know is has this happened to any of you? What are you meant to do? I just felt used and wierd. I was really angry on the way home. Am I overreacting? Maybe its cause Im not a top, but id think that there was some kind of rule where you cant just treat your sexual partner like a fleshlight. Looking back on it I should have just blown a load on his face while he was asleep. lol.

[Shadow]

Wowzers ...

Well ... ok ... first off I think that MANY people would consider it rude - many people would consider it VERY rude in fact ... but that the decision as to whether or not you feel that way is probably based on your views towards sex and sexual intimacy.

If, for example, you just wanted to be used and service your partners, then you'd probably get off on the bluntness of being treated like a toy ...

Perhaps as a top this guy felt that he was the dominant one, and that your involvement in the process was to serve him and then that was that ?

I'm not defending him - I'm just trying to think of possible reasons for his behaviour like ... because as I say, that type of behaviour IS quite rude in my eyes, as it's disrespectful to the other person ...

xx

!?!?! Shadow !?!?!

[marshlander]

I had a similar experience the first time I dared accept anyone's invitation home except that he didn't roll over and fall asleep, he moved to another chair and stroked his cat :confused:

To my mind common courtesy demands a certain fairness of treatment. I don't think it has anything to do with which role you take. I dressed and left, afterward thinking of so many unpleasant things I could have done

Although we had chatted online a number of times before then, I never saw him again. Just as well!! For me, being in a relationship beats all that one-night stand stuff.

[Bob]

I stayed over at a guy's house. We messed about for a few hours that night and then the next morning we messed about for another hour or so and i blew my load but he was still wanting to go on. I felt bad that I was finished and he was only just starting, but bearing in mind we had been messing about for a few hours, could you blame me really? Then when I went to get dressed I had to literally fight him off. I've not been a big fan of one night stands since... :confused: So it works both ways. It depends how quickly they "finish"

Bob.
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[Woolfe]

I'd probably have said something like, "Oh, did you start? I must've blinked and missed it."

Seriously though, that really is quite rude, I'd have been really quite pissed off.

So no, I wouldn't say that's considered good sexual behaviour.

Would've kept his number to let him know he was an ass though, if I hadn't told him that morning. Or the night before actually..

Ky xx

[spotysocks]

Could be worse though he could have just left after he finished!!!! lol he kissed you and he gave his number number... In one night stands guys usually get dressed and go! It is upsetting but dont be bothered takes more and also some luck to find a good sexual partner. If you were to meet him again you should both discuss more what your expectations in bed are in a relaxed fun way. Best way to avoid bad sex which i cant stand eeek! I better not do it at all !!!

Looking back on it I should have just blown a load on his face while he was asleep. lol.

I think you should really, you know better now

I'd probably have said something like, "Oh, did you start? I must've blinked and missed it."

That is not a bad idea either!

[BiPenny]

Are you sure this guy wasn't actually straight? Cos this is what happens 99% of the time in hetro one night stands, and a large percentage of the time in hetro relationships!!!!

Next time, make sure you come first!! And if all else fails then pleasure yourself - and don't let him enjoy it!

[marshlander]

Are you sure this guy wasn't actually straight? Cos this is what happens 99% of the time in hetro one night stands, and a large percentage of the time in hetro relationships!!!! ...

Got the t-shirt on that one too, unfortunately. It's in the five seconds after they have climaxed that you know. However much they were up for it before there's that unique silence ... :frown:

[Australia]

Perhaps as a top this guy felt that he was the dominant one, and that your involvement in the process was to serve him and then that was that ?

Maybe. He was definitely the dominant one.

he moved to another chair and stroked his cat :confused:

Ok thats just plain wierd.

I felt bad that I was finished and he was only just starting

Thats always been my nightmare. Me done and ready to rest and him going at it like an energizer bunny. Luckily I'm pretty good at controlling it and before this time Id either cum at the same time or directly after. It was the fact that he just wasnt interested once hed done his own thing that was a turn off. It was all too mechanical.

I'd probably have said something like, "Oh, did you start? I must've blinked and missed it."

Seriously though, that really is quite rude, I'd have been really quite pissed off.

lol. Its nice to know I wasnt overreacting.

Could be worse though he could have just left after he finished!!!!

Thats why I always go back to their place. So they cant leave. Mwhahahaa.

[fjp999]

During uni the scene had the usual... Tuesday nite was at blah blah blah, Wednesday nite was... So, there were always the usual crowd and most of us were either best friends or at least said hello to one another...

One of the "hello" friends was this super tall, blue eyed blond model type... all his friends were model types... Cant remember how the hell I found myself walking with him to his place... he shared his bedroom with one of his female roomies so we were on the couch. OK, TMI coming up so lets see if this highlite thing works: HE HAD A COCK THE SIZE OF A PORN STAR *well that is the best I could do... and hope I didnt make any one jealous hahaha...

I suppose due to his god given gift he was use to just sitting back and watching guys enjoy... well, that was rather new to me and I thought he would eventually join in as a duo but NO... anyways... do to my amazing abilities he got off pretty quickly and fainted! OMG! Um, that kinda freaked me out... he was breathing and all... maybe even snoring... so I knew he was ok but I couldnt wake him up.

I later learned, from him, that he suffers from narcolepsy... we became great friends after that nite and are still good buds with him even moving to Japan after I did... WE NEVER HAD SEX AGAIN THOUGH!

I have heard some real horror stories much worse than some have posted on this tread... so be careful who you go home with and stay safe.