02-24-2015, 06:21 AM
Virge Wrote:The problem I have with what you were saying is that you're getting way too close to criticizing others for not living up to the standards of your opinion. People's sex lives are not up for judgment calls as far as I'm concerned unless they're messing with kids other mammals or harming themselves or others.That is exactly what these kind of threads, that come up often in gay forum sites, are about. Judgment. If they were not, instead of describing why they feel they way they do, something like warmth and affection or that secure feeling that comes with commitment, most seem to explain it by inferring those that feel differently are lesser people, saying things like "have always been disgusting to me." In the days when I was single, I sometimes had sex with people I did not love and had no intention of ever having a relationship with, no plans of even asking for a number and giving a call. If you asked me why I enjoyed those experiences, it would be something along the lines of excitement, energy, and lust. I explained by saying what I liked, not the things I didn't like. I never described why I liked it by saying something like "waiting for love is disgusting."
You, and everyone who's monogamous -- including me -- can do more to help others achieve it by not being judgmental about it and befriending people that can learn from the examples we set.