03-04-2015, 08:46 PM
@Barefoot, to add to what MikeW here had to say, intergenerational couplings have happened in the past, and they were probably not so rare once upon a time, but I think we are talking about times when being gay and open about it was not the norm. These couples would exist and pretend that they were in sort of father / son, uncle / nephew, Godfather / Godson relationships when probably the older one in the couple was just passing on his experience and maybe wealth to the younger one. A way of bequeathing assets, so to speak.
These days, just as you wouldn't really expect a woman to marry a much older man, unless it was in some way money-related, a young gay man would probably be looking more for someone his own age, or maybe a few years older (or younger). However, there are all types, and some young men might feel better protected being loved and cared for by a father type figure or a grandfather type figure, maybe all the more so if that figure is young in mind and spirit.
As it takes all sorts, I think I shall wish you good luck with your search. I would, however, not call you a pessimist but more of a realist. Your path will be a hard one. Your personal likes and dislikes are not going to make this easy. But since you say you're quite young minded, would you, if it occurred, get into a loving (and sexual) relationship with someone just a few years younger than you? or maybe even a companion who's your age or a little older? Have you precluded that totally from the scope of your search?
These days, just as you wouldn't really expect a woman to marry a much older man, unless it was in some way money-related, a young gay man would probably be looking more for someone his own age, or maybe a few years older (or younger). However, there are all types, and some young men might feel better protected being loved and cared for by a father type figure or a grandfather type figure, maybe all the more so if that figure is young in mind and spirit.
As it takes all sorts, I think I shall wish you good luck with your search. I would, however, not call you a pessimist but more of a realist. Your path will be a hard one. Your personal likes and dislikes are not going to make this easy. But since you say you're quite young minded, would you, if it occurred, get into a loving (and sexual) relationship with someone just a few years younger than you? or maybe even a companion who's your age or a little older? Have you precluded that totally from the scope of your search?