My boyfriend cheated on me, and now my world is falling apart

[ShiftyNJ]

IT doesn't really change anything. You all contributed to a very sexually-charged atmosphere. If you didn't want anything physical to happen, you would have told him to put his clothes on the first time he started prancing around in his skivvies wearing the socks he oh-so-conveniently remembered get you hot. I guess it is a shame that you resisted temptation and they did not, but I guess you need to assess what this learning experience is going to cost in the long run besides the walk-up LAX-IAH.

[East]

Maybe 20 years ago there was an excellent series on HBO that rewrote fairy tales for girls so they wouldn't grow up believing that they were fragile and delicate and wait for Prince Charming to rescue them...it is soooooooooooooooo good...and if I had a young girl...I would insist they watch this series.

...and now we need one about love and lust...and someone needs to let everyone know that when you fall in love...do not expect your partner to not want to fuck thousands of other people. I don't even think monogamy is natural.....but we are all forced into a box ...and way too many people spend their lives sad and bitter and alone (not by choice) because they don't "get it"...and they hold on to fairy tales.....COME ON HBO...we all NEED YOU...YET AGAIN!

So...my advice...come home again...hopefully wait to catch them...and when they do start to fuck...get naked and go into the room and kiss your friend who is getting pounded by your BF...lick all over his body...and then kiss your bf while he is fucking him. When he pulls out...lick your friend's hole and let your BF fuck you....his hole will be sensitive and it will drive both of them crazy if you do it right...and have the right attitude...

I know...***Gasp***...

It really is good advice though....

I don't even know if you are aware of it but you have mentioned what turns you off about it...but haven't quite figured out what turns you on about it. Concentrate on what turns you on...you will be fine. If you want to keep him...see who he is. It won't blind you even though you may think it will. You might even see who you are a little better.

Live and learn....

[Rareboy]

I've got nothing more I can add.

[JasonAndU]

To help explain how at least I reacted, look at the sequence in which you presented these things. You told John "yes" while you were still in Denver, and THEN you asked your boyfriend. And he had already suggested he still would like to pick back up with you despite being told you had a man, so hopefully you can see why to this old guy it would appear you had at least a clue this might lead to trouble.

Yes John and I dated a little, and then we ended peacefully. Given the fact that we’ve known each other almost 20 years, I wouldn’t stop talking to him or hanging out with him just because I have a boyfriend. I admit it was inappropriate to invite him to move in while I was in Denver, but I thought Eric would understand. Besides, I wanted them to meet and be friends since both of them are very important people to me.

[MikeW]

...Besides, I wanted them to meet and be friends since both of them are very important people to me.

Well, that worked, yeah?

So… in all seriousness, what would you like from us. None of us are wanting to make fun of your or make light of this situation but its true, the way you presented it is … well, I could see this situation coming a thousand miles away.

So to be of any help at all, I need to know what you want… from this situation and from us.

[abcd1234]

You're first big mistake was asking John to come and live with you and Eric. When I read that the first thing I thought was DISASTER. If I had a great relationship like you and Eric I would have never rocked the boat that way.Dumb move.

[martdg19]

You really just got two options here... admit what you saw and see how they react and solve accordingly OR forget it even happen and let them do things behind your back.... Since it already happened you have these two choices... What do you think?

[Bricg1970]

Think on what you really want, if you leave two horny men under the same roof, it's not much what you can expect, it is simply obvious. you have the right to be angry but you put the temptation and left, perfect scenario. Also, seems that John as much you respect him as a big brother, he doesn't feel the same respect for you . Good luck

[oreosplz93]

Too soon? But I got kinda horny reading this lol sounds hot

[Hardheaded1]

You just don't have any whining rights. You created the situation, period, It's wholly up to you to resolve it.