Found Something on My Boyfriend's Phone

[Bricg1970]

Truthfully, I don't find it quite offensive just weird, he may has this issue and he is ashamed to admit it. I wouldn't criticized him, I would talk to him and find what makes him do this, check how are you two doing in the relationship. For me checking the phone it is quite invasive, its not that I hiding something, it is more of how much trust you have and for me having pics of naked men it is not a great deal,but if you have trust problems that is a big issue and that's the base of a relationship and it is no good because any relationship without trust is doom.

[Unfrind]

Unfortunately, if you do not trust him, you can't have both . I feel that what he's done is probably only going to strengthen your mistrust. I refer back to your original post, where he seems to not see it as an issue, when clearly you do, despite the fact that you said you told him from the start what and what you don't find acceptable in a relationship. Because of this, I can only see you worrying about him doing the same or similar things again if you stay with him

I wish you all the luck with whatever you decide, it can't be at all easy for you x

Exactly this.

Your relationship may become even more stressful and filled with mistrust. It's likely that this situation will amplify your trust issues.

Sometimes you have to make a hard decision. While a part of me thinks you should end the relationship and work on your issues, I also understand that you may really love or care about this person/relationship. Eventually, if things turn sour and the relationship ends, at least you've learned and have become more aware of your trust issues. That should be of utmost importance for you in the future: working on those issues, whether you're in, or out of a relationship.

[erectrician4u]

maybe you ought to sit him down and have a man to man with him and find out what it is that hes not getting from you theres a reason that hes doing this and if you are concerned for the relationship ask him directly what he needs that youre not supplying him with just a thought

[erectrician4u]

i hope it helps

[ffffffff1000000]

Thanks guys I think he understands that it hurt me and understands why but didn't think about it before. I love him very much and hope this helps our relationship grow somehow. I need to trust him more, though.