I had a similar experience with an ex friend a while back and I did not go for it because..this is just me...I do not sleep with friends of exes because I believe nine times out of ten...it will get back to the ex and I just don't want to be a part of that kind of drama. I recall an ex of mine current boyfriend had tried coming on to me one night and he went to the point of explaining to me that they had broken up and how the ex had always mentioned that I was the guy that he should have never broken up with. With that being said..this guy went on to tell me how he waited for an opportunity to see if he and I could get together sexually. I politely declined several times because this guy was on a mission so to speak to get into my pants. However, I am so glad I followed my first mind because they did get back together a couple of days later....Unfortunately...this guy told my ex that I came on to him instead of the other way around which caused my ex to confront me which ended kind of bad. A week later...my ex came to me and apologized for his behavior after his current boyfriend had admitted to him that he lied on me. I got even more pissed off due to the fact that when were together...I never lied to him and never slept with any of his friends if they came on to me ..so why would I do it now?..Needless to say...I did eventually forgave him but I moved forward and they would approach me with a hello greeting or a hug whenever they saw me. I try to be the bigger person towards this guy especially since he lied on me. However, like someone said earlier..whats done is done...so all you can do is move on now.
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Well done.
hopefully the sex was good.
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I have since realised that Mr Bland totally played me! The first thing he did the following day was call my ex, feign a guilty conscience and then imply that it was ME who came onto HIM! He even hinted that I'd flirted with him whilst my ex and I were still together! I can't even put my fury into words.
He is an ass. He had an agenda......
Best thing to do is to take responsibility for it...bad decision..bad state of mind,...it happens to the best of us and the rest of us....and go forth with a valuable lesson under your belt.
People who go after a friend or a relative's ex so soon are kinda seedy and have questionable character....and now you know one of the many reasons why...
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Look - it's not the 19th century anymore. It really doesn't matter who initiated things. The fact is - you two had sex. At the time anyway, you were agreeable to the idea. So own up to it, and leave the drama llama out in the cold. You two had sex, it wasn't that great, you kinda regret doing it now, you won't be doing it again, finis.
Lex
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There's a little more to it than simply making a bad decision, but the rest of the details aren't up for discussion right now.
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mvoco Wrote:And I know it's none of my ex's business really who I sleep with but we broke up less than three weeks ago and not because I don't love him but because I just didn't see how we could be together given our/his lifestyle. I don't want to hurt him.
I have since realised that Mr Bland totally played me! The first thing he did the following day was call my ex, feign a guilty conscience and then imply that it was ME who came onto HIM! He even hinted that I'd flirted with him whilst my ex and I were still together! I can't even put my fury into words.
maybe he wants your ex himself? why else such BS?
PS. if you love a guy then lifestyle, habits, etc --- it doesn't matter.
you make it fit. you don't give up for small things, and you don't give up for big things either. if you do, then it's apparently not that important to you. or you have your priorities mixed up.
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