16 Antigay Leaders Exposed as Gay or Bi

[Virge]

For me this is a real personal issue that goes past it being about religious men being hypocrites about their sexuality. It's a philosophical issue. People like these (gay, straight, men or women) live their lives the polar opposite of the way I try to live mine and have a warped concept of relationships and sex.

I believe a person's choices of sex partners and how they treat them is an expression of their convictions. If they live an honest sex life, they're honest with others and themselves. If they have to cheat on and lie to a wife of husband to fulfill their sexual needs they will cheat and lie to everyone else achieve anything else. That's not about monogamy. It's about honesty and integrity.

When I was cheated on back in March I had to do some deep thinking about it trying to understand it. Just because someone cheats doesn't mean they're evil. It's a lot deeper and usually boils down to the person doing the cheat, sneaking around not being honest with himself. Once he starts that, he's going to have to lie to and deceive everyone to cover up what he's done.

I'm going to keep my dick honest no matter what in order to avoid getting into that trap.

[Cuddly]

Thinking about it, it makes sense that a suppressed bisexual would be judgmental. If he/she can "abstain", then so can everybody else. It's still arrogant and presumptuous, but I can stretch my imagination that far.
The gays and straights, not so much. What's there to hate about consensual love?

Also [MENTION=21084]Virge[/MENTION], that's an excellent point of view. Seems accurate.

[Virge]

Thinking about it, it makes sense that a suppressed bisexual would be judgmental. If he/she can "abstain", then so can everybody else. It's still arrogant and presumptuous, but I can stretch my imagination that far.
The gays and straights, not so much. What's there to hate about consensual love?

Also [MENTION=21084]Virge[/MENTION], that's an excellent point of view. Seems accurate.

Thanks cuddly.
I should have gone into more detail to make sure no one thinks I'm moralizing people who aren't monogamous. I'm not moralizing about anyone having sex with anyone or a whole lot of anyones. I AM moralizing about people who lie to partners, wives or husbands OR to other people just to achieve their sexual needs. It's the dishonesty with others and yourself that bugs me.

When my guy cheated I was hurt and mad and thought about ending it but I kept thinking "that's crazy! He's not perfect but he's damned sure my perfect man. There's got to be a way to work past this." And we found a way. We went back to what we've always been best at and enjoyed most.... monogamous dating. Now every minute we spend together is as special as it was for the seven years we lived 16 time zones apart.... Just now he lives 15 minutes away instead of 26 hours of flight time.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

I figured it out years ago - we hate most that we hate about ourselves.

Which leads to the research and studies pointing at homophobics tend to get aroused with gay porn - suggesting strongly they have the occasional (or often) gay though, but hate it in themselves, thus leads to their picking a point outside of themselves to 'bash'.


We hate most that we hate about ourselves.... Also explains why I hate so little. And why others hate so little - because folk like us don't have that glaring 'fault' or whatever that we hate and decide to target others who have it.

[trywait]

hypocrisy at its best!

[happyschizoid]

I am never surprised but I always find it amusing.