06-07-2015, 11:24 PM
Well... Since she used a phone, you might as well assume that that photo is now off on some other computer, if not already making the rounds on the internet.
You need to let this actor fella know right now what has happened so he can do damage control since, I believe, you said he keeps his gay side on the down-low.
As for the flat mate's GF - she has to go. She has violated you and your guy-friend. If the mate doesn't like it then you need to tell him that there are lines that shall not be crossed - ever.
IF she puts that photo on the net, she will out the guy. That is plain wrong, and could end up doing a lot of harm. You need to get your mate to understand just how much damage a single photo could do for your guy-pal-actor.
My rule of thumb when I had roommates and was in a relationship or something was to establish rules of conduct when it came to "dates" or "partners".
For instance, this whole leaving the GF there without letting you know was one thing that wouldn't go down. We established right off the top that we would personally see to it that the other roommate(s) would know if we were leaving a guest in the house when we left.
Also, for my own sake, I go from room to room to check to see if anyone is there when I am entertaining a potential mate or a partner - because I am well aware that things can get rather heated without warning - so its ALWAYS best to check just before your 'date' arrives...
Hopefully nothing will come of this photo, and this situation will learn you a few good lessons which will lead to better roommate communication and strong policies about dates/partners. And of course, to look bothways before you cross traffic.
You need to let this actor fella know right now what has happened so he can do damage control since, I believe, you said he keeps his gay side on the down-low.
As for the flat mate's GF - she has to go. She has violated you and your guy-friend. If the mate doesn't like it then you need to tell him that there are lines that shall not be crossed - ever.
IF she puts that photo on the net, she will out the guy. That is plain wrong, and could end up doing a lot of harm. You need to get your mate to understand just how much damage a single photo could do for your guy-pal-actor.
My rule of thumb when I had roommates and was in a relationship or something was to establish rules of conduct when it came to "dates" or "partners".
For instance, this whole leaving the GF there without letting you know was one thing that wouldn't go down. We established right off the top that we would personally see to it that the other roommate(s) would know if we were leaving a guest in the house when we left.
Also, for my own sake, I go from room to room to check to see if anyone is there when I am entertaining a potential mate or a partner - because I am well aware that things can get rather heated without warning - so its ALWAYS best to check just before your 'date' arrives...
Hopefully nothing will come of this photo, and this situation will learn you a few good lessons which will lead to better roommate communication and strong policies about dates/partners. And of course, to look bothways before you cross traffic.