06-28-2015, 04:17 AM
So this guy and I started talking 7 months ago, and we're still talking today. It has never advanced past "talking" in the label department. He lives 2 1/2 hours away and is a junior in college, and I am a senior in high school. We see each other at least once a month, usually more. We have had sex a couple times, and I have spent the night at his house before. We use terms of endearment towards each other (cutie, babe, etc.) and we even say "I love you." Clearly after several months of this, I want to be able to call him my boyfriend, but he always has a reason to not make that commitment.
Today I have reached my breaking point. I brought it up to him that I am not here to wait until he is ready, and it isn't fair for either of us for me to wait any longer. His response was "It can go further, and I want it to, but I also want you to have a fair chance at being in college/high school and not having to plan your life around me. If you do end up here, and we decide to date, I'd love that, but I can't torture myself by dating someone that lives so far away. I did that in high school and I don't want to anymore."
My question is: Do you think I'm just convenient for him or do I really have a chance in this becoming a serious relationship? I mean, I've put in this much time, so wouldn't it just be a waste to call it quits now?
Today I have reached my breaking point. I brought it up to him that I am not here to wait until he is ready, and it isn't fair for either of us for me to wait any longer. His response was "It can go further, and I want it to, but I also want you to have a fair chance at being in college/high school and not having to plan your life around me. If you do end up here, and we decide to date, I'd love that, but I can't torture myself by dating someone that lives so far away. I did that in high school and I don't want to anymore."
My question is: Do you think I'm just convenient for him or do I really have a chance in this becoming a serious relationship? I mean, I've put in this much time, so wouldn't it just be a waste to call it quits now?