what should i do

[JAS]

i started speaking to this guy on grindr last september on and off but over the last 6 months its been constant and got pretty serious to the point where we are both no longer on grindr like a proper relationship and not doing or seeing anyone else. however over these 6 months we still havent actually met face to face, i feel like i love him and he knows that and he feels the same. but whenever it comes down to meeting him something always comes up on his end, at first it was okay because it was family issues which i wont get into but its been ages now and im fed up with this relationship with my phone. i mean i love him, is it too much to just get a real cuddle from him?! he says he really needs to meet me too but again its always on his part that we dont. i know he isnt catfishing me as we have snapchatted. but i just dont know what to do anymore i dont really want to lose him and i keep telling him that i need to see him! but how do i know when to just give up :/ i keep setting myself deadlines but breaking them when he says he will definitely see me but he just hasnt, and today im just finding myself not knowing what to do :/ why cant he just see me

[TwisttheLeaf]

I already replied to this in your other thread.

[osidebud]

Be upfront and has him questions, directly. If he doesn't answer then his not really interested in continuing with you. Don't be afraid. Be self-assured and bold.

[East]

Come right out and ask him what the problem is. Be direct and to the point. If he wont' answer or pretends he doesn't understand...move on.

[Virge]

For the convenience of other GS members I'm including the link to the identical thread you posted with a different title so they can do their answers in duplicate as well.
https://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=37638

I avoided replying yesterday because I wanted to give other a chance before I did. I keep hoping others will start stepping in on threads like this to talk about the 2,000 pound gorilla staring out of the OP and not always leave it up to me to do it.

1 year of chatting on grindr or any social media without ever meeting face to face does not come close to something known in the real world as a proper relationship even though the two of you may not be seeing anyone else. There could be other reasons neither of you aren't seeing others... like both of you constantly sitting at home and not doing anything but 'living' virtual lives online. There's nothing real or proper about it. It's a cyber fantasy, a virtual relationship that only exists 'in the cloud' and any resemblance it has to your real life is only coincidental.

Get off your computer. Get out of this fantasy world and go meet real people and try to have real relationships.