09-28-2015, 02:46 AM
Hi Everyone!
So it's been a while since I've been here and there have been some developments (both positive and negative) in my life and with the guy I've asked questions about before.
Just as a quick recap, I let him know last Fall that I liked him, and he let me know that he liked me too, but it just wasn't time. After that, he and I continued to chat throughout the Fall and Spring. He finished his degree this past Spring (and our conversations picked up) and he and I saw each other at an event in June. We weren't able to get together for more than a general conversation and I had my feelings hurt when we were hanging out in the pool (late, drinks were involved) and I saw him across the way making out with a random guy.
Unfortunately, right afterwards, I lost my mother suddenly to undiagnosed cancer. During this time he was so sweet to me, offered all kinds of support, made me laugh, listened to me cry, etc. etc. And once again our conversations were long and relatively deep.
Now, finally, after months of him being on the move he's settled in his new place and has invited me to come visit him. I'm super excited about it, but I was taken aback by something he said right before he made the visit offer. He asked how/when we met each other and when it was put together we've only known each other for maybe two years. We've probably only been in the same room for less than 36 hours total. When I said that he said "Oh, so much has happened, I thought it was longer than that" and it hit me that I really don't know this guy as well as I'd like to pretend that I do.
I also know that he's invited several different people to visit recently, so now I'm waffling between the excitement of seeing the guy I like and knowing that he may only be inviting me as a friend. I want this trip to count, but I don't want to go in with my lips blazing and overloading him with crushiness. I also don't want to be frigid and trying to play it cool.
I really don't even know what I'm trying to ask. I've been chasing this guy for a year and I feel like I'm finally making progress but I also don't want to move too fast and scare him off. What do you think? Should I just go and enjoy it for what it is? Or, does this sound like he's planning an elaborate booty call?
I know I'm overthinking it, because that's what I always do.
So it's been a while since I've been here and there have been some developments (both positive and negative) in my life and with the guy I've asked questions about before.
Just as a quick recap, I let him know last Fall that I liked him, and he let me know that he liked me too, but it just wasn't time. After that, he and I continued to chat throughout the Fall and Spring. He finished his degree this past Spring (and our conversations picked up) and he and I saw each other at an event in June. We weren't able to get together for more than a general conversation and I had my feelings hurt when we were hanging out in the pool (late, drinks were involved) and I saw him across the way making out with a random guy.
Unfortunately, right afterwards, I lost my mother suddenly to undiagnosed cancer. During this time he was so sweet to me, offered all kinds of support, made me laugh, listened to me cry, etc. etc. And once again our conversations were long and relatively deep.
Now, finally, after months of him being on the move he's settled in his new place and has invited me to come visit him. I'm super excited about it, but I was taken aback by something he said right before he made the visit offer. He asked how/when we met each other and when it was put together we've only known each other for maybe two years. We've probably only been in the same room for less than 36 hours total. When I said that he said "Oh, so much has happened, I thought it was longer than that" and it hit me that I really don't know this guy as well as I'd like to pretend that I do.
I also know that he's invited several different people to visit recently, so now I'm waffling between the excitement of seeing the guy I like and knowing that he may only be inviting me as a friend. I want this trip to count, but I don't want to go in with my lips blazing and overloading him with crushiness. I also don't want to be frigid and trying to play it cool.
I really don't even know what I'm trying to ask. I've been chasing this guy for a year and I feel like I'm finally making progress but I also don't want to move too fast and scare him off. What do you think? Should I just go and enjoy it for what it is? Or, does this sound like he's planning an elaborate booty call?
I know I'm overthinking it, because that's what I always do.